I am terribly sorry, this must be devastating. As others suggested he needs to go to a new school. This SD of yours has caused so much trouble, in the worst way possible. After this supposed rape, did she go to the hospital and get checked? Where did this supposedly happen? She is beyond despicable and your EX is a total a**!! Karma will bite both of them big time. To defame your sons character, set him up with her friends and cause physical harm. Just plain evil. Hugs and hope you get help for your son, and both of you can move on from this awful nightmare.

I am so sorry for what you are both going through. What really strikes me is if it were true why would she tell people. I would think you would not broad cast that. Is she atbthe same school?

What always struck me is you stb ex was more he'll bent on winning over bm than what was best for both families. Truth be told both parents sound like they are selfish and self centered.

Have the police been involved like he threatened.

Libbie, I am SO sorry. Prayers for you and your son. I hope all works out for the best.

Is there any way you do NOT have to see your ex? Do you have anyone who will help you move his stuff outside? You can say you won't be there (even if you are). Or have his things is a specific area with NOTHING of yours nearby and someone who will ensure he takes only his things and nothing else? I wish I could help you out. I know how awful it is to be around someone when seeing them is the LAST thing you need/want. {{{{{HUGS}}}}}

Libbie, I am so sorry it all escalated to this and so quickly.

You do NOT need to see the ex right now- put his stuff on the porch, or lawn, or whatever and tell him to pick it up from there. DO NOT interact with him or SD unless your attorney is present. If you ignore this advice and do interact, record it and be VERY mindful, they will be recording and also trying to set you up.

Do NOT worry about bills that haven't hit yet. Get DS better, then move away for his sake. He will not be able to live in this town even going to another school. Give him a fresh start.

DO NOT speak to ex, friends, family, police, CPS, anyone about this unless your lawyer gives the OK.

One thing you can do, is put together a written record of everything you remember regarding SD. Your blogs here will help alot. Beyond that, breathe, take care of yourself and take care of DS.

{{HUGS}} Im so sorry that you and your son have to go thru this.

Is homeschool an option? Maybe not you but look in your area for home school teachers. Most that teach their own children will welcome others. I know the money situation is tight, but its an idea.

I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. It's a horrible situation and I hope that you can get things worked out for the better.

Wow.. this has got to be heartbreaking for you.

I do think it will be tough for your son to go to school with his accuser and she obviously has people who are going to stand by her as well.

Unfortunately, until this situation is all sorted out and the dust settles it will probably be difficult for your son in this area.

TBH, I don't necessarily think that the girl would keep it to herself if it was true. She may have felt that she had to give some reason for the split. She also could be a drama queen and would use this situation (true or false) to garner attention.

Optimally, your son needs to be in a safe place where he can get help to navigate what is going on and what may come to pass. While the girl seems to have done some manipulative things.. that doesn't necessarily mean this is a manipulation.. though it could be.

If you have a friend or relative that can be at your home while your EX gets his things, I think that is probably best right now. Also, you need to not discuss this with anyone but your atty right now and I hope that and your son's mental health will be your priorities.

The rumors would reach the new school and the same thing would happen. Is there any way you can relocate, friends or family that would help you out?

With social media, kids have so many mutual friends from different school and school districts.

I would forget about school right now and focus on getting your son better and getting an attorney. Your SD screaming rape nearly cost your son his life, and if there is ANY proof that she lied about it, it needs to be found out. An attorney can help navigate those waters and will be the first step in clearing his name.

On the flip side, if your son did sexually assault or rape her, he needs treatment and a good attorney that will hopefully secure him help through the legal system versus just jail time that will likely result in another suicide attempt.

Either way, treatment and attorney are today problems. School and divorce are tomorrow problems. You have my sympathy.

Oh Libbie I'm so sorry. I used to work in a children 's psych hospital and as someone above said-you need to get rid of all his social media accounts. If he gets out and sees those he will be right back at square 1 and in danger again. And as loopy as some of the stuff the therapists suggest yo you sound- be sure to follow up and do what they suggest because it does help. And finally, yoiu need to be sure to take care of YOU.

(((((((Hugs))))))

oh Libbie, my heart goes out to you and BS......

File assault charges against the hooligans who attacked BS, and do not drop it.

Dump all off DH's shit on the lawn and tell him, it's there, collect it please or people will simply take it, you will not spend 2 cents removing him from the house, and with his shit on the lawn, keep the doors locked and the curtains drawn.. oh Hon change the locks so he can't get into the house.... I would keep furniture for the years he lived there without paying rent.... I will sell it.

eff all the people turning against you and BS... they will all be sorry one day, and then you tell them - cheers bitches....

You and BS are in my thoughts, tell the little slugger he has some one all the way from Mars who's on his side, get him into home schooling and eff the school... I would sue them as well if it's possible