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Hi all...I am seeking some advice...here is my story. I am getting married to a wonderful guy October 2010. He has a wonderful 8 year old daughter however his exwife, her parents and her boyfriend are impossible. When it comes to her, the document it "just a guideline". She is supposed to send clothing, she does not...she gave up a TON of time with her daughter for the house (she sold her child for a home), she schedules her for activities during my fiance's visitation. I run from my job to pick her up to run her to dancing class and religious instruction...her parents show up to these activities and make comments like "look at what she's wearing" "do you think they feed her" etc. etc. So, I decided to just drop her off to give them some space. Now, I am rude and I must be hiding something! No one talks to me, they glare at me and make nasty comments like calling me "trailer trash" on the internet or calling me a "homewrecker" and a "whore". Meanwhile, I did not stop dating my fiance until they were sepparated. I have stayed out of their business completely however these people always have something to say. She does not take care of her daughter when she does have her for brief periods of time. Her parents do...she never gets her off the bus, never does school projects with her, never comes to her activites, never cooks for her...we do. I do all these things and this woman is so mean to me I can't even explain it. When she calls to say goodnight to her...she grills her for all the details "who were you with, who drove, where did you go, why did you go there." she even went as far as telling the child on sunday's "tell daddy to bring you to me...that isn't your church, tell him you don't want to go there". Now we are getting married, she has been grilling her daughter about our wedding. I am very fearful she is going to try and destroy it. Does anyone know what kind of rights we may have in New York? We just want this woman to follow the divorce agreement and custody agreement and move on with her life. We even went to his daughters birthday party in which we paid half of only to be called names in front of his daughter by her grandmother, be yelled at by her mother's best friend and afterwards, my fiance' received threatening email from her boyfriend. What can we do to make these people stop interfering with visitation, stop interfering with our lives and not ruin our special day? Any help?????