Therapy with BM... whee.
Long time reader, first time blogger.
So, next week we go in for "group couples counseling" with BM and her fiance. I'm both dreading it, and looking forward to it. It's a mediated forum to get things out in the open, and it's really hard for her to keep up with convoluted lies when four other people are present.
BM is a couple years my senior, they've been divorced for a little over two years, and FH and I are getting married in 6 months. How we got here is a LONG long story, and probably best broken up onto several small blogs. But I'm optimistic that positive change can happen. And if I tell myself this long enough, and hard enough, I might start believing it.
Glad to have the place to vent.
~Odd
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Good luck honey! I hope it
Good luck honey! I hope it goes well...just remember to keep breathing and stay calm:)
"Venting without the desire to look within and improve your situation is simply venting to hear yourself bitch."
..."I'm not mean, you're just a sissy."
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Thanks. We've already been
Thanks. We've already been through two sessions, one just FH and BM, one he and I. I sat in the waiting room for theirs, which was pretty frustrating. Friday she and her fiance went for their individual session.
I'd expressed to the therapist that I thought she was feeling threatened by my involvement in my two SD's lives, and apparently that got communicated to BM. After an initial MAJOR freakout over the kids not calling me "Mom," BM apparently went home and told them that it was ok to call me "Mom" if they wanted to. I'm not sure how to take that, since I'm pretty sure she's not actually ok with it, but just wants to look like she's not feeling threatened? *sigh*
Not that I can think of.
Not that I can think of. Haven't asked them to. Told them I was comfortable with them calling me anything they liked. "Except for bad words"~ from the 6-year-old. Mostly they call me by my name. The 4-year-old occasionally calls me "mom".
Good luck ! i hope it goes
Good luck ! i hope it goes well! (we will be going thru the same thing soon, let me know how it is, that way it will give me some hope
I'm dreading it...