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I miss my private life

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Submitted by newlife on Sat, 02/27/2010 - 9:44pm

I think one of the hardest things to come to terms with since gaining a child to live with who is my husband's son every weekend is that my quiet, private life is shot to hell. No longer can anything that happens in our house, either minor or major, stay between our walls. As long as my husband's son is around, he will blabber it all to a woman (BM) I barely know and try really hard to tolerate. Not only that but then she tells her boyfriend, she tells her best friends, she tells everyone she knows. If my husband and I have a disagreement on a Saturday afternoon, she knows. Every thing we did all weekend, she knows. Everything we talked about all weekend, she knows unless my husband and I hide in our bedroom to talk. If our dog is misbehaving, she knows. I have to completely "hide" my facebook profile because she is "friends" with my husband on facebook. It just really sucks and I needed to vent about it, maybe someone else can relate. It's been a year and I still have the hardest time coming to terms with this. Sad

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Submitted by areyouserious on Sat, 02/27/2010 - 9:55pm

OK Newlife,
I am going to say one thing that comes to mind...BE HAPPY it is only every weekend...Yes, I can sympathize with you but OH MY GOD, I live with his crazy kids and their crazy father (their husband) every day and have to BEG them to get the hell out of the house and go to a "friend's house....I am wrong then in husband's eyes because I made them go somewhere instead of sitting on their asses watching me do the housework!

Have some friend's over. Start a Bunko group, start a book group on the weekend. When I move to San Diego I plan on doing ALL OF THE ABOVE and bringing them ALL into the home as much as I can!!!!! LIke it or not, I will be living there in that home and HE AND HIS KIDS will HAVE TO DEAL and it will give the other's a chance to see the shit I live with Smile

Don't let this kid coming on the weekend stop you from your life.....have fun with your life and they can work around you!

"The pic reminds me of the slaveboy and his queens in this home...it depicts a kid ruling her Big daddy...how sweet! What it doesn't show is the Big Daddy bowing and thanking them for the abuse and begging for more"!

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Submitted by newlife on Sat, 02/27/2010 - 10:42pm

I am still happy about a lot of things and do many things to keep myself occupied both during the week and on the weekend. I understand some of us have worse/more upsetting/frustrating lives with our significant other and the step children than others. I was just venting after something happened. That's all.

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Submitted by areyouserious on Sat, 02/27/2010 - 10:46pm

That is what this place is for...please do not take that the wrong way....we are all here to vent and it is helpful! Keep venting! For me, sometimes it helps if I read about others in worse situations than myself to keep me in perspective.

Don't shy away from venting and I didn't mean anything negative about what I wrote. Many times, I let my own situation be the judge of what I write and think...that is why I know I am not the best person to take advice from Smile

"The pic reminds me of the slaveboy and his queens in this home...it depicts a kid ruling her Big daddy...how sweet! What it doesn't show is the Big Daddy bowing and thanking them for the abuse and begging for more"!