As a recap, a little over two years ago my SO's father passed away. He was a kind, gentle person who was a good grandfather - as attested by his family and other grandchildren. The skids, however, chose the following:

SS27 ignored the terminal illness and death completely; didn't even respond when notified his grandfather had died.

SD24 said she could not get off of work so she could not go visit grandfather prior to death, and then said her company did not permit any bereavement time off to attend the funeral when he did die. Neither of the skids called their grandmother during this time, to include after the death.

SD, did, however send an e-mail to one of her cousins the day before the funeral because they said they would read it for her on her behalf. Knowing she would have an "audience", SD glowingly wrote how much she loved her grandpa and how it was so sad she could not be there - which the cousin read at the funeral service. All those in attendance considered it a wonderful tribute and were so touched.

I knew better.

Like clockwork, SD behaved true to form. About a week after the funeral, she went on a vacation with her friends. Upon her return from her fun beach-party vacay, the next time she saw my SO she didn't even mention anything to him about her grandfather's death or ask any questions about her grandmother.

Fast forward two years. SD is still working for the same company. BM's father (her other grandpa) is seriously ill. SD immediately takes a week off of work and flys to grandpa's bedside along with BM. She stays for more than a week, during which grandpa pulls out of it and recovers.

SD returns home, tells her father of this and then says, "Well, if grandpa had died I could have gotten more time off - the company gives us three bereavement days."

My SO says nothing.

Guess which grandfather has the money?