This kid has been told by the adults in his life- BM, DH, maternal grandparents, and me- that he really needs to learn when to stop talking. It has been said nicely and not so nicely many hundreds of times. His behavior- backchatting and just utter laziness, never owning up to his choices, at least at our house- has gotten steadily worse over the last couple of years and now I can barely speak to him, because there is nothing good that can come from his backchatting me. I guess he raised his hands to his mother last week and is just generally a little jackass there as well. I have christened him "Little Man Big Mouth" or "LMBM". Anyway...today he and his twin played their last rec soccer for the fall and his brother scored three goals. LMBM got pulled from the game by his coach for arguing too much on the field, but when he went back in he was assisted by his brother to score the winning goal. Was he happy? No, he cried and cried and insisted that he scored TWO goals. (There was no other goal that was even questionable as to who scored it. The other three goals were scored by his brother, as I said above.)
My point? Well, it seems as though LMBM is on track to be exactly like BM. He will believe what he wants to and will continue to deny that he does any of this stuff. This all seems to stem from insecurity. But how to make him believe that he can change his crappy patterns? His parents dote on him- lots of positives, etc...and he does really well in school- a bit impulsive but follows the rules and does what he's supposed to. Ugh.