I am a stepmom of 2 and have been in my husbands kids lives for 5 years. Their visiting schedule has changed a few times since I've been around but since last year with court orders in was finally set in stone. Court proceedings all started because my husband got ill- like pretty much lived in the hospital due to many different things and he could not work for over a year. My husbands ex wanted his 100 weekly disability checks careless that he was in the hospital. Two seperate occasions when I went to get the kids his ex refused to give them until she got her money. Which that lead to visitation schedules and eventually made her file for support. Anyway since he was ill he made it 2 days a week which were the days I had off to go get them..well some time later he's 100%better and we couldn't be happier. I just wanted to first explain why the scedhule is the way it is...anyway for some reason I've been feeling so guilty. Since they are only over 2 days a week. I feel like we should fight to have them more. I've never mentioned this to my husband since he has never mentioned more time with them. He seems to be ok with the schedule so why rock the boat? I guess I just feel guilty that we arnt trying hard enough to have them or he hasn't mentioned it to me or anyone. I just think if your noncustodial u should do whatever to be in their lives as much as possible. He does attend their activities and brings them lunch to their school , he does love them dearly and maybe this is just an easy routine but idk y I keep feeling like he should step up and be more no matter what it takes. Maybe he feels like he can't and has no control, he never has. Idk I'm not on here to bash my husband I guess I'm just wondering if any stepmom can related to this feeling...