I sent DH the initial blog post about the "shout out" to type A personalities. He and I have been having trouble with how we handle things regarding all the kids and exes and such.

I get that I look at things differently than the four males in the house. But I was also feeling like I was always being told I was being ridiculous, overly critical, difficult. I am willing to try to do things a new way but DH has not been able to articulate a new way other than "do more fun stuff" and when I ask about how to handle the bad stuff (since it's not always fun stuff) and he has a problem with that, he doesn't know but I shouldn't do it the way I'm doing it. He's not mean about it. But I can't figure out how someone can say they don't like a way you did something but then not be able to tell you what should have been different.

I've also watched DH and BMs interactions and DH gets very defensive that BM is questioning his parenting. They've been super nice to each other lately because of the lawyers and HS decision so he feels less threatened. BUT, now when I saw anything *I'm* now the one apparently questioning his parenting. In fact, I didn't ask but got showed an email from a few months ago about how BM was questioning his parenting. All I saw was an email with her offering to pick up the skids if he couldn't and drop them off somewhere.

For example, in the blog posting is said something about having trouble with the chaos. DH took that as it *is* chaos. I tried explaining that in our view it's chaotic for a person who likes routine and order. For someone who isn't as rigid, it's not as chaotic. He picked out several things (that were just the viewpoint expressed) as direct derogatory comments on our situation and his parenting.

(In this same conversation I was told I pick out all the little things and focus on them and I should relax...and I pointed out to him that none of them, including him, have noticed that I've been trying to do what he asked and have closed the cupboard, put away the glass, carried thing x from where it is to where it should be...they do not pay attention either way. I can't catch a break.)