And now I got the "you don't interact with the kids"
Of course not!
They aren't bad kids. Please don't jump on them. It's because of DH and BM. I'm not punishing the skids.
But...I stepped back while DH and BM fought about schools. For my own sanity and so no one "got in trouble" because I had made any comments or given any guidance to DH or the skids.
I also stopped interacting with the kids because I was always doing it wrong per DH. So I went to polite chatter at meals, pleasant congrats on things, and the basic good manners.
Now I got told by DH (when finally I had had enough and told a skid he'd better bring back something of mine from his moms as it's been weeks) that the skid is upset because I never talk to him. Uh, he's deflecting, DH. you can see it when my son does it, but you buy it when your kid does it.
The message is: do only fun things with them and say happy words (and you'll be cut off it if seems like it's not a happy word), but you have less authority in the house than the people who come here to visit.
Can someone just please shoot me?
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Yep... my DH actually uttered
Yep... my DH actually uttered these two statements in regards to SD17 within 1 minute of each other.
"Why can't you act more like a mother to her?" (because I didn't go to her VB game or something stupid)
then approximately 1 minute later when I questioned why her phone bill was $700.00 for the month I got
"Just mind your own business"
Nope DH. Can't have it both ways. I will not be the fun, Stepford Step Mommy who tells SD how wonderful she is, buys her clothes, takes her for pedicures, helps her with her homework, goes to all her games etc. But then have to bite my tongue when it comes to her pig sty of a room, blood on the toilet seat, unwrapped used tampons thrown in the trash can in her room, $700.00 cell phone bills,failing 4 classes, lying, manipulating etc. Nope, not going to happen.
OMG I PRAY for the day my DH
OMG I PRAY for the day my DH says for me to "mind your own business"!
That will be my cue to TOTALLY disengage from the little minions and tell DH to take the Stepshits and
go stay with his mother when it is his time!
He isn't that stupid...he knows I would blast him beyond recognition if he said that.
I keep waiting for BM to pull that one too but since I don't exist to her, that would be impossible.
BM pushes the stepshits to say I need to be more involved. Of course that means on her terms only.
This would include all the Nanny duties and providing financial assistance but none of the reward.
No thanks...I will keep my money and my time and she can suck it.