I've been a member for 40 odd months and hardly ever post. It's not that I don't want to, it's that usually I get so frustrated that I don't finish my post.
I've been with BD for 6 years. A member here , as mentioned over 40 months. It really doesn't change.
SS, now 15 , (I also have one 9), is an absolute habitual liar. Name it.. he lies about it. There is never any real consequences for it, but there are these big long pow wow's with the BM over it, which is nothing more than a colossal waste of time and a way for her to keep talking to my husband. She never follows through on the HOURS long , exhausting , incessant blather on her end nor on my husband's end. The lies are becoming destructive and possibly a liability for any adult around him.
BM is another story. She is absolutely pathological in her lying. Everything and anything ... name it.. she'll lie about it. Husband is not half as hard on her as he can be on me for way less !
Someone else posted a topic on why we hate the BM.
We are very different people BM and myself. GOD knows I've tried for his kids sake to be a get along. She's just everything I can't stand in my own gender.
I hate that after 6 years he still entertains her.
I hate that she has no integrity and lies about accomplishments and skills she's never cultivated in herself, to her kids.
I hate that this kid SS15 lies and is failing 9th grade after I have up my time to get him up to A's! (They split custody 50/50 so the SKIDS are at my house half the time.) She couldn't maintain the grades on her weeks?!
Neither husband nor BM take that responsibility and maintain it.
I hate that he buts whatever BS she spews.. I hate that I'm naturally fairly soft spoken and this one is a know it all.. loud. . Know it all.. tells people what they want to hear then never respects that other people are doing all the work and she's busy taking all the credit.
I hate the damsel in distress game she plays and he buys into.
I hate she ruined husband's credit unapologetically.
I hate not having one moments peace from either SS 15, SS 9 or her BS! ( which should be a non issue at this point).
I hate liars. . I hate them in my house, in my life.. in my face.
Over 40 months.. it doesn't change.
I've been to counseling. . He never commits to go. He only placate me when I'm mad.
I hate the empty promises. . The swearing to God on ALL their parts.
I hate the giving up and never once getting back.
I hate the lack of boundaries. ( I'm a bitch if I try to establish them )
I hate that they fail and spoil their kids while others " fix" every hair on Fire situation that they come to me about!
I hate this marriage of 3 he won't give up or fix.
I hate feigned helplessness and stupidity.
And I may bounce soon.
this only scratches the surface of 6 years of this garbage.
Thanks all! I need to start talking.. I'll just burst if I don't!