So I guess this probably makes me a bad person On some level ... but I have been with my SO for roughly 2 years. He is 13 years my senior and was married previously for 10 years (with her for 20 total). She is, to be blunt, an alcoholic, manipulative, unoriginal, demeaning, whore. She cheated on him for at least 8 out of the 20 years they had known each other, openly and blatantly in front of his friends and family. She would berate him and their children, get drunk EVERY time they went anywhere, and hang on whom ever was closest with a pen*s. She was an embarrassment. They were divorced for 3 years when I met him, and separated for 5. Basically she should not be his or my problem now, however that's exactly what she has been since day one. I understand that exs can be a pain. They are always there And have to be in your life if there are children involved. Fine. But things between my SO and his ex are different. He still does things for her (like pay her cable bill to have it turned back on because she "forgot" to pay it on the very last day before it was to be shut off) and talks to her pretty much every day. She calls or texts. If it's about the kids, I get it, I keep my ex involved as well. But I am losing my patience. She's nice to him when she needs a favor. He does it, she goes back to psycho ex again. If he says no EVER she's a psycho and berates him and then blames me. She's an alcoholic and crashed her car drunk last year and lost her license for 2 years, so she's become increasingly needy... I have tried to be a nice person, to introduce myself or be at least cordial when we're in the same room and she has not ONCE given me the time of day or even acknowledged me, yet when she talk to her ex, MY SO, his family, or her friends (the other moms around town whom she has known a hell of a lot longer than I have) she cannot seem to keep my name off her tongue. she literally doesn't know a thing about me but I seem to be her topic of choice. her kids, despite how much I try to do for them or how nice I am to them, hate me and are starting to hate my children by association. I can't do a thing right by them these days, yet they worship this woman who does absolutely nothing for them. She's never home. She chose to be a 40 year old bartender so she works afternoon and nights almost every night. The kids are always home alone or with myself and their father. She doesn't spend any $ on them ever. Her child support goes toward rent, and HER $ goes to botox, facial peels, and tattoos weekly. If they need anything they go to their dad and he doesn't hesitate to get it for them. This woman doesn't even know her own daughters size when it comes to clothes because I am the one who always takes her shopping! And yet, despite all these things, he continues to be friendly with her every chance he gets! He tells me that they are obviously goING to be friends because they have known each other for 20 years and have 3 kids together. He makes me feel like I'm actings like a jealous, immature little girl every time I get upset that he feels the need to have extensive chats with her every time he drops the kids off at her house, when in reality I feel like they have zero boundaries and zero respect for the boundaries I need for us to work. She knows it's inappropriate to tell him about her sex life and toys and show him her boobs job, yet these things continue, I feel out of spite... am I crazy for wanting this woman to just fall off a cliff somewhere!? Things have gotten progressively worse as we are expecting a LO in June (And of couse she was the first person he told "on accident" during an unrelated conversation even though we had decided to surprise everyone and she is the LAST person I wanted to know). I know it's jealousy... but do I really need to put up with or deal with this woman as closely as I do for the rest of my life!? Ugh help. Advice?