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Gifts (Christmas Bday... Just cause)

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Submitted by MdMom on Tue, 10/28/2014 - 7:30pm

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So, SD just had her 4th Bday a few weeks ago. When FDH and I would ask SD what she wanted for her Bday she described a Frozen (the movie) Elsa Doll, that could sing and talk to you.
I looked for this doll for a week before SD's Bday, and all the stores were sold out, or the doll was ridiculously price... I'm sorry but I'm not going to buy a 50$ doll that will be the 'Prize' for a week then be forgotten in the toy box.
So FDH and I settled for an Elsa Barbie, and a cute outfit.
I did, though, find the doll about a week after SD's Bday for 50% off at a local Store so I figured I would get it for her for Christmas, and Splurged I guess and got it for her.
Come to find out, two days after I bought it, that she got the same doll from BM for her Bday. I wasn't upset about it, I mean I have two other Girls I can give the doll to.
I asked FDH about it, and he said that it shouldn't matter. SD will just have the same doll at different houses.
I guess my question is, Should I still give the doll to SD for Christmas? OR should I just give it to DD2 who I know would be PUMPED to get it (or the Anna doll I got for her.)
It may be a silly thing to ask, but I just don't want SD to unthankful for getting a gift, because she already has the toy at BM's house.

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Submitted by SecondGeneration on Wed, 10/29/2014 - 3:18am

Yeah its one of those tricky ones that is going to happen time and time again as kids get older, everyone asks them what they want and they will answer honestly what they want, but if its only one thing they say they really want then you run the risk of many multiples.

Since you know she got the doll for her birthday from her BM, why not ask SD since she has the doll already was there something she wanted that she didnt get? But again you just run the same risk for christmas.
Do what you thinks best, if you think you are better off giving the doll to DD and getting SD something else then do that, only you know whether shes the type of child to sit there and be ungrateful about having something twice or if shes going to perhaps enjoy getting your DD excited about the doll and showing her how to use it since she has it already.

(Dont only get her clothing, shes 4, no 4 year old enjoys clothes as their major present unless its fancy dress)

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Submitted by PokaDotty on Wed, 10/29/2014 - 7:20am

I'd give the doll to DD but the clothes and tea set reminded me of my DD favorite gift when she was little... We got her a disney dress up box that had princess costumes, shoes, wands, etc. I bought a bunch of costumes after Halloween on clearance and found a nice box and cut and pasted Disney princesses all over it. She loved it and wore her Cinderella EVERYWHERE.

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Submitted by jumanji on Wed, 10/29/2014 - 8:27am

I asked my kids to make two lists - one for me, another for Dad. They never overlapped, and both were pretty equivalent in terms of a "big" want, a bunch of more reasonable wants, and some needs. It was really quite easy.

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Submitted by MdMom on Thu, 10/30/2014 - 3:54pm

Thank you all for the input!

I think I will go for the tea set thing! I never thought about it! and that's sad because SD and DDs are using my cocoa cups and a little plastic tea pot for their tea parties. So a Tea set would be an AWESOME gift for SD. Though she wont be the only one that plays with it.
We have stuck to clothes with gifts, because SD (really all the kids) grow SO fast!! though SD is only four she is now in a size 6/7 soon to be a 7/8, but she's tall and slender, she's not a chunker. lol
@Nunya83
We never have SD bring toys back and fourth. She knows that her toys here stay here and the toys at BM's stay at BM's. If SD does bring a toy from BM's it goes into the coat closet with her clothes from BM's and shoes from BM. She asked why the first few times, and I would just tell her I would hate for her to lose a toy BM got for her, or I don't want the other kids to break it, so she can still play with it.
this only happened for a few weeks until SD stopped bringing toys from BM's.
SD had told me, after getting home from BM's, that she had a Birthday Party at BM's house, In which I replied OH, fun! did you get a lot of gifts?
and she then told me about the doll. I would have never thought twice about it, cause we don't know what kinds of toys SD has at BM's, she doesn't talk about it and we don't ask.