hehatesme's - Do you have an anonymous number for truency in your area?

While my SS16 (from previous blogs - the one going to court today for felony selling/using drug charges) was staying with us - he kept refusing to go to school, my DH wouldn't really do anything about it, nor would BM.

The one morning - enough was enough and I called our local number and the school anonymously. The little SOB had to go to court over it. DH and BM were told they were responsible for him - if this continued, they would answer to the court.

Well - he now attends school regularly, but I think it's just because he has a bigger customer base (he was selling on school grounds).

We are in the same boat. It just gets worse from my perspective, never changes. I have taken some of the advice from others on here and it has helped - DISENGAGE. You really have to protect yourself emotionally from this crap. I haven't been able to totally disengage though, I am struggling - but the times I have, it really made a difference.

We go to court this afternoon and we are also supposed to have him this weekend. I really need to work on the disengage thing so I survive through the holidays. If they don't put him in jail, I know it's going to get even worse - he feels his behavior and actions is "no big deal".

You might want to try to disengage - just to see if it helps you - because at this point, you really need to take care of yourself, not him - let DH deal with it!

All I'll say is, you'd better have a sit-down with your DH and tell him that you will NOT be allowing this kid to live there and be supported by you when he's 18 and has flunked out of school. 18 and he's gone. If he can't be bothered to do his "job" and go to school at 16, he'll have to live with the consequences.

BB

You are not second best, you are not second class. Do not ever let anyone make you feel that way. - 2BLoved

Honestly if I were you I would let it all go. In my state if the child doesn t attend school then the parents are taken to court. Let DH get a summons becuz he lets Jr. run all over him---that will be a wake up call for him.

What state are all of you in where you kids are being taken to court? My DH's daughter misses school ALL THE TIME...has many unexcused absences...the school has obviously done nothing because she continues to miss school. DH confronted her and she said when she wakes up late, she doesn't go...her mom doesn't care...she too has already failed on grade, and is already failing one class this year...but since DH is non-custodial, and we live out of the country, I sure hope that if the witch is taken to court she doesn't come asking for money through the CS because of her being irresponsible...we'd fight that to the end...have a feeling though, the courts would still make him pay...

If he was custodial, he could say 18 and you're out, unfortunately, if you are non-custodial, you don't have that option...therefore, as it is she's should graduate 3mos short of her 20th birthday...hmmm...and that is if she doesn't fail this year or ever again...and he'll have to continue paying until she does graduate...

So, who do you call so that the school or the law actually does something with these kids if the custodial parent won't do anything?