I'm trying to give BM3 the benefit of the doubt, and be patient with her, but she's not making it easy.

We just went from 50/50 custody (week on week off) to SD living here full time and visiting BM 3 weekends a month. This happened because BM continues to make shitty choices, won't get herself together, and doesn't prioritize SD7.

BM dropped SD off this morning with McDonald's breakfast. Not a big deal, except I have 6 other kids that live here, and I felt like if she wanted to take her kiddo to breakfast, she should have taken her in time for her to have time to eat instead of dropping her off here with a bag of food. Some of my kids are younger and don't understand.

She also dropped off SD7 without her glasses. Here's the thing. I took SD to get the glasses this summer. The first weekend she went home with mom, they lost the glasses. BM gave me some cock and bull story about what happened to the glasses, but then SD told me the truth all on her own, and it turns out, they just set them down on the beach and lost them. Okay, fine. So I called and ordered new glasses. They came in last week. I took her to pick them up so she could get them fitted. Friday she goes home with mom. Shows up this morning with no glasses. I asked if she had worn them over the weekend. Ummmmmmmmm....yes (which means probably not.)

I'm sick of BM3 not having her shit together. It's old. It's exhausting. She's my age, and still can't seem to pull it together even for a weekend. How hard is it to get up in time to feed your child? Frick. It wouldn't even have mattered if she dropped her off here hungry. I have a ton of food. She just doesn't think. Ever. At all.