ok so heres the jist: SO's child is 10. His brain and balls resided in a jar that belonged to BM. BM cheated A LOT. after his child was born BM had 3 other kids while with SO all of them not his. One she told him was his for about a year then said that child wasn't his, and it isn't. SO now got brains and balls back and is thinking well too much adds up here with this one child that's supposed to be mine maybe I should have a dna test. There are a lot of factors like him being out of town 9 months before this kid was born. ANYWAY, SO wants a dna test. BMs reaction almost solidified that child may not be his. she threatened to "stick him with another kid", she insists on telling this 10 year old child about the dna test?! then telling SO how could you do this to my family, it went on and on like this then had her family members messaging SO saying things like "why don't you just keep being the dad you always were? if my kid wasn't mine I wouldn't want to know." WTF are these people born on another planet or is it just me?!

I do think SO should have done this sooner but I also think its wrong of the mother to tell the child about the test and if shes his whats the big deal?

SO has said he will still love the child and is more than happy to be her "dad" he just wants to know if shes actually his.