Am i paranoid to think that Sd makes faces at me? My husband thinks heres nothing to it but i am pretty sure its loaded. Those facial expressions and words..theyre driving me crazy.
When dh shows affection towards me like hug me or kiss eme on the cheek in front of his daughters, this Sd12 makes a face or stares at something and puts on a sad face. She does that even when there are other people around as if to tell others that she is not happy about this. I have told my dh not to hug me in front of the girls anymore because it becomes embarrassing for me when she puts on that face and other people notice. My dh says i am just paranoid and that his girls woyld never do something like that but ive seen it so many times it cant be just my head making it up. Its not fair cos i am always so nice to them. The girls only like me when i have something for them. I dont bribe them or anything like that. Now i just dont want to give them anything at all or waste my time and effort for them (but of course its inevitable, one way or another i would be putting in effort and time for their sake). Dh said he would look into it further and then told me that he found nothing. That it was just probably because sd didnt know how to react. Dh hugs me in front of the kids to show them that i am part of this family etc. Sd keeps talking about their mom at meals almost as if shes trying to do it on purpose because im right there listening too. My dh and i have a lot of fun together and enjoy each others company and are best of friends..but i dread the days when the stepkids come over..the other two stepkids are okay, theyre to young to understand anyway..its only sd12 who really makes me feel like i should leave my dh. Because i dont want to deal with this disrespectful behavior. Dh hugs and kisses the kids and tells them he loves them all the time and i like that and i dont mind or feel jealous at all...but when he shows affection to me, sd12 puts on this face that i wish i could capture on camera and show to dh so he would understand why ita making me feel so hurt.
We spent one weekend in a summerhouse with some friends who came over and sd was so negative about everything...not wanting to go out hiking with us, just wanted to stay in yhe house...actually sh would cooperate in activities if i am not joining. I am so hurt with this behavior. After two days they will be in my home again and the tension will start again and i will have to clean up after they leave again!