I just found out that my husband may have a child with his ex. She got pregnant just before they broke so at least he didn't cheat on my and her son is like 4 yrs old. We're waiting on a paternity test, but it is driving me nuts. I don't know how not to let it bother me or not think about it. I try to be supportive for my husband because that may be his biological that he missed out on all this time. I am so angry at both of them (not the child). If he knew that she was so screwed up like he claims then why didn't he use protection? I just don't get how dumb that was and I can't change it. I feel like I am on a verge of an anxiety attack. I mean I just find this out right after I miscarried!! What a cruel joke...or so it feels. I wanted to have another baby so badly, my husband didn't, but he gets one. Yeah, I can be a good step mom, but it's not the same. I need to learn how to cope with this. Can anyone else relate? And how do you feel and deal with it?