TWENTY-EIGHT!
There are twenty-eight days left until BM's spousal maintenance ends. 11/30/09 is THE LAST DAY. DH has been paying her for almost 2 years now.
I am counting down the days...I have a Countdown set on my home page to remind me of that joyous day!
I think I'm looking forward to that more than any other day this year!
I can NOT come soon enough, I tell you!!
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congrats!!!! Great
congrats!!!! Great news.
"God grant me the serenity accept the things I cannot change; the strength to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference."
Congratulations! Won't that
Congratulations! Won't that day be a relief! Plan a weekend getaway for you and DH to enjoy some of that money on YOURSELVES.
Congrats! DH pays alimony
Congrats!
DH pays alimony for 5 more months (of 4 years).
I'm counting down too!!
Congrats!! I definitely
Congrats!! I definitely recommend a weekend to celebrate. when my DH's spousal support ended, he took the next 2 months of what would have been her money and bought himself the triathlon bicycle of his dreams. Every time he sees it, it makes him smile...I call it his "freedom bike". If your budget allows, use the same amount she would've gotten and buy him (or the two of you) something you've wanted but couldn't afford..hopefully it will be somewhere you can see it regularly and it will make you smile.. }:)
Congratulations. I agree
Congratulations. I agree with soy_girl, but I think a trip (even weekend getaway) is also a good option.
Thanks everyone. That's a
Thanks everyone. That's a good idea about going on a trip. Right now we're trying to catch up w/ Child Support & spousal maintenance since hubby lost his job around Labor Day. He managed to get a new job, but the pay's still a little screwed up and we're waiting on a HEFTY check to pay off the arrears that's owed for mid September, all of October and now, November.
PLUS he found out that the information he submitted to get the money garnished from his paycheck (order of assignment) wasn't received, so he just had to resubmit it. Hopefully that'll kick in soon. Once it does, we'll have a rough idea of budgeting things.
At his old job, he was paid every single week. This new job he'll be paid on specific days--the 15th & 30th of each month. So by the time it gets to DCSE (division for Child Support Enforcement), it'll be "late" for the month and they won't be too happy, so it'll ALWAYS appear that he'll be in arrears. Oh well, we have NO control over that, if it takes a week for something to process electronically.
Now if WE could just send the $$ in, we'd have it there on time and in full each month. But the BM decided to be a crank coz hubby sent the payments to the court, instead of writing the check directly to HER. Oh she was NOT happy and took revenge by telling DCSE that hubby was in arrears. He really wasn't...she FAILED to mention that he had paid her a couple checks directly and he had affadavits proving she accepted the $$.
Really pissed us off that she did this due to the fact she didn't get "her" way. So what if OUR way is the LEGAL way? (it's specifically written in their decree that all payments have to go through a payment clearinghouse!!) Why should that stop her? She didn't get her way, so she sought revenge.
Karma's a bitch and I can't wait for it to bite her on the ass.
~*~A Good Mommy will let the kids lick the beaters. A GREAT Mommy will turn the mixer off first!~*~
I love what soy_girl
I love what soy_girl said...I'd take a picture and send it to the witch too...hehe
What a witch. Why are
What a witch. Why are people so hateful? Oh well, it's enough that you will be done with it. Sucks that so many of us have lost our jobs. My FH and I BOTH lost ours. We both had good jobs and I got a hefty bonus and pay out but I still haven't found a job and that's close to running out. Grr. No trips for me either.
Why is she hateful? Because
Why is she hateful? Because she was losing control of the situation. She's a control freak...and she didn't like the fact that her Ex was consulting with ME first before making any decisions.
That's what it boils down to, as far as DH and I have come to realize with her. We really believe she thought that she'd have complete control over his life once the Divorce papers were finalized. When she kicked him out of the house, he went to live with some friends that were former coworkers. His friend put it like this, "The way I see it, is that your marriage cannot be fixed. I compare it to a piece of toast. When it's new, it's like a piece of bread. Once it's put in the toaster, and it gets toasted, it REMAINS toast. It cannot be UN-toasted and turned back into bread again. And re-toasting a piece of toast is most likely going to burn it, which is what will happen to you if you try to get back with her. YOU will get burned."
He listend to that advice and realized, the marriage was OVER. His ex wanted him to pay for everything, do all the 'man' things, just not live there or interfere with the new life she wanted to create for herself.
On a different note, I really hope you can find a job quickly. Hubby was blindsided that his job was ending. Granted, he was a contractor (he is a computer systems administrator), but he was told his job was safe until March, 2010, when the contract was up. NOT!! He ended up getting a 1 week notice. We had some money in savings, but not enough to survive for very long.
He was submitting his resume left and right...I was brainstorming on where to submit it and suggested an employment (temp) agency. He tried and actually got hired through one--contract to hire permanently. It certainly was a blessing. I thought of that way only because way back in the mid 80's I was a "Kelly Girl" (Kelly Temp Services) and jokingly told hubby, 'You could become a Kelly Girl!'
~*~A Good Mommy will let the kids lick the beaters. A GREAT Mommy will turn the mixer off first!~*~