school pics shared with ex
When it comes to school pictures typically the school won't allow you to order two separate packages, do you share with you ex? do you give them 1 pic? do you make them pay for part? what is your arrangement?
I ask because quite frankly I am pissed about how my husband's ex has done him this year over his daughters preschool pictures. These are her first school pictures, so they do have some sentimental value to them. When first ordered she said she would order 2 packages, later she gave us our check back and said that she couldn't order two, but she would give us some. Now its almost the end of the school year, we still haven't received one but I'm seeing from various family members who are still in contact with her that they have been given one. I'm quite pissed that she didn't see it necessary to give the child's father a picture of her. Or even acknowledge the text message I sent her after I saw the first picture at a family member's home that said "By this time of year, I'm sure you have received (child's name)'s school pictures. You never gave us any like you said that you would. I would like to have at least one to put into her album if you have one to spare please."
I guess what also irritates me over this is she only sent it them to the ex-family members that she liked (cousins and what not). Both grandparents still don't have these pictures and their feelings are quite hurt that they still haven't received them. I took a snap shot of one with my camera phone, but due to copyright laws I can't go print more at CVS for the family.
Although I think it is completely wrong, I am even willing to pay the witch just to have a few at this point.
This. I know we missed a
This. I know we missed a deadline once as DH was at work and there was no alert from BM that they were coming up. The school was able to give me their ID with Lifetouch (who does pictures here) and I was able to call and get them to track down the picture code enabling me to order the picture off their website. Mind you I had to have the school ID, Class Name, SS's name but it wasn't that difficult.
Ugh, total manipulation and
Ugh, total manipulation and control tactic!
Technically you can't copy them at a local store, but if you call the company they will fax you a "copywrite release form" that you can take to CVS. Most places don't even charge for the form some $10.
We don't ever ask for SD7's
We don't ever ask for SD7's school pics. BM always dresses her weird, in clothes like 2 sizes too big even though we buy her plenty of nice cute things that fit every year. last year she had her in a plain oversized shirt tucked into a skirt with a pair of jordans on. The shirt & skirt were hideous & obviously only picked out to match the sneakers. & her hair was slicked back in this ponytail just to show that she has 'good hair' that can be slickd down & is curly.
it was soooo ghetto. My mom saw the pic & was like... oh no - SD7 is so cute & this pic is so not. Lol
We have a picture of SS where
We have a picture of SS where BM dressed him ridiculous...which she normally does anyways. DH has since offered that if she cannot afford to dress him up one of his will take clothes to the school for him to wear for the picture. It is really a tell tell of who he is with depending on clothes, and like if she knew DH would possibly take him lunch on one of her days she would dress him up but typically it is clothes that are to small or that make him look more toddler-ish than school age.
Haha BM got SD ready this
Haha BM got SD ready this year for school pics and my mom said the exact same thing that it was such a bad pic of SD and didn't even look like her because of how her hair was styled!!
We missed out on SD pics last year also because we didn't get the envelope either and BM didn't let DH know. We changed the CO over the summer to say parents must communicate any info regarding school (pics, reports, field trips etc.) But DH is also proactive and emails the teacher and makes sure he gets copies of everything sent home.
This year we ordered with BM an equal package and paid half (one order, two checks). Then instructed the teacher to separate when they came in and provided her with our own envelope. We have a good teacher though, not sure all are as accommodating...
I was actually surprised when
I was actually surprised when I saw the picture. Normally BM dresses SD in clothes that are either too big, too small, stained, wrinkled, or are clearly worn out hand-me-downs. She rarely does her hair. Infact the extent that she normally goes to is putting a clippy in the front to hold the bangs out of SD's eyes. But in this picture she actually curled her hair, put earrings on her, and she had a decent looking pink shirt on. Thankfully the photographer took the picture where you couldn't tell it was a Minnie mouse shirt. But all in all it was the best picture I had ever seen of SD while in BM's care.
Im not overly worried about the picture, because I had family pictures made around the same time and singles of just SD also.
This year we had SD for
This year we had SD for picture day. BM was insisting that we dress SD in the clothes she provided, and bring her by her house so she could do her hair. SO was like, no. This is our first time having SD for any pictures. Plus the dress she sent over was horrible, and she expected us to dress her in tennis shoes with an ugly dress. We ended up dressing her in a cute outfit, doing her hair, and dropping her off at school. The whole morning, BM was sending SO text messages asking when she could expect us to drop by. We totally ignored all. Pictures came back, and they were CUTE. Even BM bought some even though she was still pissed we dressed her.
Hmm...at SS's school they let
Hmm...at SS's school they let DH and BM order separate in two different picture envelopes, and typically they will add a letter to the last name to ours to determine the difference between BM's order and our order. Have you discussed with the teacher her possibly sending a different envelope for your DH and maybe doing something like this? Typically I put "dad" in the top right and that is how they decide how to differentiate the packages later.
I am so sorry y'all are going through this.
If BM wants school pictures,
If BM wants school pictures, she can order her own online. But she never has. We're not giving her anything we paid for!
I don't mind ordering our own
I don't mind ordering our own online I just don't know who to order from. I sent the school an email asking if they would send me a contact name, number, or email so that we could just get our own since BM was refusing to cooperate with us. I hate involving the school in such a childish civil matter.
SD's school lets you order
SD's school lets you order two packages, but its done with one form and BM is usually the go-between. so far it hasnt been an issue for us. we write the check directly to the picture company.
We paid for pictures one year
We paid for pictures one year & BM kept them. We gave up. I took her to get them done (love Picture People) & the pictures always turn out 100 times better too.
DH's Order required BM to
DH's Order required BM to provide a school picture to DH (non-specific on size--big mistake!), and about every 2-3 years, she would send a 5 X 7, and maybe if she wasn't in a the mood to be a b*tch, one wallet. DH never pushed it, like everything else, because he didn't want to make waves. We usually took the kids somewhere at Christmas and had our own pics made. I agree with the others that say the school pictures usually suck anyway. We even did that this year with our our DSs because the school pics were so bad.
Ex's can be jerks -
Ex's can be jerks - regardless of gender.
First year we were split (he lives 300+miles away), I ordered a larger package of school pics, mailed him half (no, I did not ask him to pay for them). The next time the kids went to him, they returned with an envelope (with the pics enclosed - each torn in half) with a verbal message "Daddy said if he wants pictures, he will get his own." Oooookay then. It's not just Moms.
My DH just has pictures of
My DH just has pictures of his boys done elsewhere, for the same problem that several of you mentioned. BM dresses them weird, and their hair is always a mess when they're with her. I don't think they ever comb it at her house. BM sometimes buys the boys' school pictures, and sometimes she doesn't, but when she does, she demands that DH pays for them because she just never seems to have any money (for pictures, anyway - she's always got money for her clothes and jewelry and whatnot).
For my two sons, I pay for a picture package and give their dad one small picture - like a wallet-sized picture. He never wants to pay for pictures, so I figure he needs to be thankful that I give him anything at all. I never get a "thank you" for the pictures I do give him. He thinks school pictures are a waste of money and doesn't see the point in even having them.
So true. It doesn't cost
So true. It doesn't cost much more (sometimes much less) than the outrageous price they charge for those school pictures.
Where my boys go to school, you have to pick out (and pay for) the package even before the picture is taken! If you don't like the pictures, too bad, no refunds. I buy the cheapest package possible because I don't want to waste my money if they turn out bad (which they often do).