Been waffling on disengagement. Need some stories on what worked for you, what didn't, why did you feel it necessary to disengage, and has it caused worse problems for you with DH.

Bear in mind please that my own disengagement has to do with Golden Uterus BM. I actually am rather close with two of my future skids and the third one I used to be but she fell victim to PAS by BM and wrote her father off years ago unless she needs money or it's Christmas/her bday (don't screw with the gifts).

I still plan on cooking, cleaning, doing activities with the 2 kids with my own three but only on my time and my convenience. When we are together EOWE in my house, we are a family and will act as such. Everything else? School stuff? Sports? Holidays? Yeah tired of being in line of fire.

Any testimonials would be greatly appreciated.