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ugh, seriously?

Amara's picture

L (SS21) is staying the weekend at his mom's, which is always a double-edged sword. On the one hand, I love the time away from him. (That makes me feel like a jerk, but there it is anyway.) On the other hand, DH and I are trying to teach him things like responsibility and accountability. We have a list of groceries that he's supposed to pay for with his own money that he's making from his part-time job. BM screws us in this regard every. damn. time. by buying L a boatload of food and supplements and crap that he doesn't have to pay for in any regard.

Anyway. I was looking forward to most of the day away from L today. He just came home long enough to say "You guys don't have to pick up groceries for me this week, my mom stocked me up" and deposit his food, then goes off to work after DH volunteers to pick him up and bring him home from work.

I can't deal with this. I seriously can't. I mean, I could feel my entire body tense up as soon as I heard L at the door.

I'm about to have a conversation with DH about setting a time limit for L staying here.

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evilstepmotherJ's picture

Kids these days always seem to have someone to bail them out, nobody wants them to learn to be self sufficient. My SD19's grandparents bail her out all the time. Maybe you can get SS21 to pay rent each month?

Amara's picture

I've sort of begun to think that stepkids expect more from stepmoms than their biomoms. Like, we have to prove that we aren't bitchy and awful, so we have to be super-nice-and-patient-and-selfless and if we aren't - you're the Wicked Stepmother and Dad married a shrew etc etc.