SD11 new troubles
So... SD11 is not only no longer on Honor Roll, but BM was called to the principal's office to be informed that SD11 has to now "take special classes to help her". They have both covered up a lot of stuff lately: failing grades, improper school attire, distribution of child porn-type videos by SD and her friend, and the list goes on. DH thinks this is "normal" kid stuff and thinks she is going to grow out of it. He said she does not need any type of therapy, since they supposedly do not believe in it. BM takes the time to badger DH about his beard, his looks, other petty crap, but does not think it's of value to inform DH of their daughter's now fast fall into delinquency? I asked to take SD11 into our home, DH thinks she is soon going to be of legal age to choose where she wants to live (which she pretty much does anyways, she chooses to live with strangers!), but I am afraid it might be too late by next year...
Your right next year is
Your right next year is probably going to be too late to fight for custody. Your SD can give her opinion as to where she would like to live and the judge will take that into account, but she will have to speak with him. So you think she will ever say she wants to move in with you and your DH? I don't see that happening because BM will let her get away with way too much just to keep her in her home. This BM is not interested in sharing important information about your SD because she feels she is above your DH and you and she should not have to do that. This BM feels she is above everyone.
OMG you are brilliant! That
OMG you are brilliant! That is EXACTLY what is happening. Wow. I'd like to hear more stuff from you, you are very astute. She is a bully. She bullied DH and skids even when they were married. She hit him and scratched him and ripped his cross off his neck (heavy chain, mind you) and literally every other word started with a cuss word. Her texts to SD are full of cuss words. And you are correct, SD will not want to live with us, since she has free reign over there-PURPOSELY!!!(the ONLY things she has to do at our house is: shower at least every other day and keep her room floor clean so I can walk on it- other than that, no rules, she calls a conversation "yelling" and tries to get out of anyone having any kind of parental discussion with her). I am upset at the school for not bringing in BOTH parents for this meeting-and all the other meetings with the principal. BM picks up the kids at our house every day after school, and she doesn't bother telling DH anything that is going on with the kids?
Brilliant! I will quote you
Brilliant! I will quote you to him tonight! Thank you for that insight!
If your husband knows
If your husband knows information is being withheld from him, Why doesn't he make an appointment himself then with the school and explain to them that he would like to be kept up to speed on his daughters grades and behaviour etc.,
Also brilliant! I think I can
Also brilliant! I think I can also schedule an appointment, being her stepmother?
I'd say they all do! Well,
I'd say they all do! Well, like I said, BM is a complete failure in all departments, and it feels to me as if she wants her own daughter to fail, because NOT failing would mean that she would be taking after me... And I KNOW she is very jealous of me because her plan was to cheat and move out and stay married to DH (despite of having a new live-in BF half her age), reap insurance benefits and possibly even life insurance if DH was gonna take his life (he was very depressed when she moved out). The woman is a beast.
Holy Toledo Batgirl you want
Holy Toledo Batgirl you want to take in this burgeoning delinquent just when she getting of an age to start the real stuff like drugs and boys?
Damn what sins did you commit that you feel you need to whip yourself into a bloody blob of quivering goo?
Best thing you can do is zip your mouth and get on with YOUR life.
Haha I thought about it too!
Haha I thought about it too! I guess I'm just a softie... Truth is, I love these kids like my own- I hate their Behavior at times, but they are helpless souls too. My DH is kind to my boys, to me, to my dog, so I cannot help but want to love and help his kids, too.