Another blow up last night. We never had that family meeting. I ended up leaving to go to my SIL's house and wathing TV until midnight.
FH and I are better now, we talked about it and he's less stressed when we can talk. On the other hand...SS14 was out of control! It's been two weeks now and the sh** keeps hitting the fan.
I came home to an empty house and it was lovely. I was alone for 3 hours and I was loving every minute of it. My FH was out with SS14 purchasing a wood stove for the winter. When they got home, dinner was ready and they sat down to eat. I mentioned to FH that SS14's English called again and that he should call her back (its the second time she calls). Well thats all I had to say (I should've waited to say something when SS14 wasn't around). I all started from there. SS14 told me no, I'm not ruining his birthday (today's his 14th birthday), he can see how excited I get to talk to his teachers and see how bad he's doing, etc... I told him on the contrary I'm not excited, I'm annoyed and no matter what is said it will not ruin his birthday, I would never do that "Sorry I brought it up".
Well, he didn't let it go...He continued to complain about how this will be the worst birthday ever. He's used to $300 and $400 gifts and we're only giving him $40, how is he suppose to get used to that? Why haven't I baked a cake? who's coming over. Why isn't anyone making a big deal about his birthday, ect... I told him not to worry about it I have it under control. I also added that he's acting like a spoiled brat (another mistake) he said he's not spoiled, when was the last time he got something he wanted, I told him the other day when he got 2 sneakers. He says..oh big deal sneakers (they were expensive!). He wants a $400 Tv when he has one already. I told him that and he says it's too small and his room is a dump and too small, etc...
I could take it! I told him that if he continued to complain about his TV, I was going to take it. He told me that I can't do that it's not mine. lol...I said watch me. He looked at his father and he told him to stop and that I can do what I want. Then his uncle was there helping to hook up the stove and he also tod SS14 that he's lucky he has a TV and that if he was his son he'd take the TV away too (wow I didn't know what to do with myself!).
I told him to go clean his room if he wants people over tomorrow and he told me no, whats the big deal its not my room, I must have told him 10 different times...He wouldn't shut up! So I told FH to tell his son to clean his room, and he did. SS14 was so upset that he was slamming things and grunting. About 2 minutes later he comes out into the living room to tell me that his dresser broke. I ignored him, because by this time I'm so upset of the hour of torture I was put through that I didn't want to talk anymore. So he insist of yelling that his dresser is broken. So I said "WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO! YOU BROKE IT BECAUSE YOU'RE PISSED OFF!!!!" Of course me yelling totally shocked him and I get looked at like I'm crazy. I told him to go in his room and don't come out until the room is clean and organized. He tells me "It my house I can leave my room when I want".
Before I absolutey went insane I grabbed my purse and left. I stopped at the gas station and flipped out on the owner who told me "we're closing, what do you want?" (seriously?!?) Went to my SIL's house and vented to her for about an hour, watched TV and passed out on her couch.
Today is his birthday and I'm supposed to act like these past two weeks have been great?!?!
I'm sick to my stomach, I've barely slept in the last week or so and I told FH that I'm finding a counselor.