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Submitted by Bradymom on Fri, 11/08/2013 - 5:42pm

All of my stepkids sleep with the FULL ceiling light on. It's a major issue, as my bio kids & my step kids all share rooms.. Because of ages & genders (total 6 kids) My kids don't even like a night light. I got them to compromise by first putting in a nightlight, they were constantly being woke with the ceiling light on... So I got them to compromise with a small lamp... Still the ceiling light gets turned on throughout the night! One of my bio kids is at his wits end. I think this is a major red flag that something doesn't feel safe to the kids at night & think it should be addressed on a professional level. (Stepkids are 16, 13 & 7) History is bio mom cheated on my husband, to the point where she had locks on the outside of the rooms, locking them in so she could not be bothered while she was slutting it out. I think that definitely is the root of the issue. Counselor involved doesn't think it's an issue to be concerned with. I think she's off her rocker! Night time should be a safe, peaceful time & it's freaking weird to have kids of this age to be needing a full ceiling light on! What do you think??? Experiences with this?

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Submitted by Bradymom on Fri, 11/08/2013 - 6:03pm

Regardless of the lights left on, when they awake they put the full light on. We have put battery lanterns by bed (same as flashlights)
Right now we have 20 watt bulbs in the ceiling lights... But it still lights my one child up. I've even shown my bio kids the holes in the doors where the locks were, in an effort for them to be empathetic.

Yes!!! Bio mom told counselor the kids have made claims to her that kids have threatened to hurt them-- but when stepkids brought into counselor they say No they've never told their mom this & no that's not happened. Even so, that could contribute to their issue.

When questioned they say that's what they're use to at moms.

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Submitted by DeeDeeTX on Fri, 11/08/2013 - 6:09pm

I know your SKs are the ones with the problem, but it sounds like deep seated mental issues that might not even be their fault.

Why not give your bios a sleep mask so they're not bothered by the light?

Or would it be possible to put all the SKs in 1 room ( with a curtain for boy/girl privacy issues) so they can deal with their light on thing together instead of bothering everyone else?