Another Evening, Another Ridiculous Call from BM....
Another evening, another stupid phone call from BM..... :sick:
This time it is because SHE emailed SS11's teacher and told her that two kids are a "distraction" to him in the classroom....(making excuses for why he isn't keeping up in class). One of the kids is a girl that SS has had a crush on for two years. She then (for some STUPID reason) felt the need to tell SS that she had told his teacher this information...??!
So then SS starts freaking out...throwing things and having a meltdown, convinced that his teacher is going to tell this girl that he likes her! So BM calls my SO...since she cannot "handle" SS. Apparently she & her DH are unable (unwilling) to fix this.
Ridiculous. Self-Inflicted. Drama.
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OMG! I am fuming for your SS!
OMG! I am fuming for your SS! My own parents NEARLY did something like this to me, they had the phone number for the parents of a boy I liked (they found out in my diary cause I left it in the lounge open) they were joking about ringing them, but fark! The way I felt internally, was the most intense and awful feeling I had ever felt at that time! That's how I KNOW, NEVER to put my kids through anything like that! Aww the poor kid!
I still don't know why it shocks me to read about these BM's selfish bullshitty antics, you think I'd be used to it by now, but nope, I don't think I'll ever understand how these "mothers" put themselves above their kids. Ugh.
Yup. Been there (not the
Yup. Been there (not the teacher bit) but the BM calling OH to discipline SS on HER time because she can't.
We had do take him overnight for her because he was being "so naughty" and she couldn't cope.
stupid fat lazy cow.
Parent in the first place and you would be able to handle him now.
AND OH had no problem he saw it as a good thing - :? I cannot fathom WHY he was ok with SS seeing coming to ours as a punishment was good?
I felt so bad for SS...he is
I felt so bad for SS...he is a shy kid who's ears turn red whenever this girl's name is mentioned.
Doesn't she remember being 11 years old?? Being mortified that ANYone knew of a secret crush??
My SO thinks it is no big deal and that she was telling the teacher so that the teacher could move SS's seat if needed.
Wouldn't a teacher do that anyway... no need to mortify her kid over it.... she is an idiot & seeks any kind of attention she can get.
Yes - she is looking to use anyone & anything she can as an excuse to NOT parent the kid & get him up to speed in class.
We have him EOW and when he comes over we have emails from his teachers that he is past-due on homework and so he is loaded up over our weekend and we have to stay put & make him get caught up.
I feel it is WRONG to shame-motivate kids....if he can't trust his own mother with his private information, who CAN he trust??!!
Then to call my SO.... when it all blew up in her face..... ??
I am beyond frustrated with
I am beyond frustrated with her antics...there have been so many uneccessary texts & calls.
I can't tell you the number of times that we have been woken up by my SO's cell phone beeping or ringing with her stupidity. It is really starting to p*ss me off!
This is her THIRD child (with three baby daddies) - the oldest is 20 and lives at Grandma's (when she isn't missing, like now)... the second lives with her and is a senior in high school and just turned 18 last month and he is skipping school and saying that "School can F-off".... so her track record isn't great.
Here are just a few examples from this week:
It was not our weekend to have SS last weekend and my SO has had a really bad head/chest cold for the last two weeks, which she is aware of. Saturday 7:30am - it is her weekend with SS, but she texts to ask if SO can get SS to baseball game (30 miles away). My SO is in bed with a fever... but she wakes us both up anyway.
SS had Friday/Monday off school due to the Columbus Day holiday.
Monday evening 8:45pm - my SO receives a phone call regarding SS being so far behind on homework (his teachers have sent SIX emails in the last few days). My SO has been sick and had not checked his email. She has SS at a baseball game - they aren't even home! So after a FOUR-DAY weekend, the kid has STILL not been made to get his homework done...?!!
Tuesday - the calls began at 6:15am - when she was "trying to get SS to wake up and he was yelling at her". During the work day, she texts my SO multiple times regarding the emails that they have both received from SS's teachers regarding his being several assignments behind.
(I know she's freaking out because this is the first year that my SO has went to the teachers and insisted on being on the contact email list (she usually puts herself and her DH only) and she knows that my SO is seeing how many times emails are coming from the teachers & what SS is not keeping up with - on HER watch.)
Tuesday evening SO went OVER to her house to have a discussion with SS because she & SO had received SIX emails from SS's teachers over last few days regarding not doing his homework. She is acting helpless at getting an 11 year old to do his homework. She has my SO lecture SS on getting his homework done, asking WHY it is not getting done, etc... but yet SHE has him 90% of the time (we have him EOW only).
Wednesday evening - phone call from her because SS is having a meltdown & throwing things due to her telling him that she had emailed his homeroom teacher and told her that he has a crush on the girl that sits behind him and that she and another child are "distractions" to him in the classroom. (An excuse to cover why SS isn't getting his work done). The issue is HOMEwork. And as she does with ALL issues, she tries to deflect to another issue so that SHE doesn't get questioned as to what is going on at HOME... you know... that place... where HOMEwork is suppose to get done?
Oh I just can't wait to see what today brings! NOT.