I have 3 kids and 1 sd (2 of my kids from a previous relationship and the youngest is mine and dh child together) My dh has played the role of an excellent father figure to my children since we got together 2 years ago. More recently we started getting his daughter on a regular basis, every other thursday through sunday. (His ex hasn't quite let go of him and wouldn't let us get sd because I was now in the picture up until court several month's ago when she had no choice but to let us have her) Anyways, like I said he's been an excellent sf, up until we started getting sd regularly. Now when sd comes for her visits it's as if my children and I don't exist. He completely ignores my kids (one which is also his) and me. Sd doesn't have to follow the rules of the home either that are supposed to be for all members of the family. Dh and I have discussed this situation and I have explained to him that this behavior from his will cause a lot of resentment between the other children and myself. He agreed to change and that sd should follow house rules like all the other kids. Dh does change.. sometimes. Some weekends are good and some are bad.
Not only does DH do this but so does his family members. My children are treated very differently than sd. She is highly favored. I understand that they have had a longer relationship with her but I want our children to be treated equally (especially my youngest, who is also biologically their family). I feel so immature, that i'm letting this situation get to me so much but I don't want favoritism or resentment between our children or between me and my sd! Any advice? How do I get the favoritism to stop??