No surprise to me, SD14 ANNOUNCED that she wanted to try out for drill team (i.e., dance) in December...this was after she went on and on about the day's color guard drama (yes, every single freaking day there is color guard drama that I have to hear about...I try to tune it out, but SD14 makes it a point to tell everyone in the house how much she hates the captain, how the captain really isn't that good, etc.). This is where it gets good...

DH flat out told SD14 that he did not want her in drill team. He pointed out that every time she has gotten into some kind of trouble, dance was involved, or at least people she knew through dance (the alcohol situation was supposedly to "calm nerves" before a recital, the naked picture fiasco involved a girl from the dance team, etc.). SD14 went on the immediate defensive saying she never got into trouble in dance, at which point DH listed out what he was talking about. DH also pointed out that is acts like a totally different person while she is in dance, and not in a good way. He said he had a lot of thinking to do, and she had a lot of proving to do...she had to keep her grades up, she had to not act like a brat, she had to learn to ignore the drama of color guard (as drill team is filled with even more drama, and if she cannot separate herself from it, she doesn't need to be in it), etc. DH basically told her she needs to be the person she is supposed to be...be a leader not a follower...and from what he has seen, he can't trust her to do that, so she needs to prove to him. DH also told her that he is on to her "fakeness", so he needs to feel she is being genuine! Oh, and he also brought up the not eating (not the purging), and said there was no way he was going to let her be in dance if she doesn't eat right!

I just sat there speechless! What got into this man? LOL

Then, DH later gets a text from SD14 (she is in her room mind you) that she wants to go to the homecoming dance on Saturday. DH made her come out to the living room to talk to him about it. He flat out told her, "If your brother isn't going, you're not going! You are only 14, and you don't need to be at a dance where there will be 16, 17, and 18 year old boys without supervision!" My son got home shortly after, and DH asked him if he was going to the dance, and he said he had to work that night. DH mentioned that SD14 wanted to go, and BS18 said, "Even if I was going, she doesn't need to be there! That thing is nothing but a grind-fest!" (meaning that it is all about girls and guys grinding on each other in inappropriate ways). With that answer, DH called SD14 back out and told her she was NOT going to the dance! She made it clear she wasn't happy with this answer, and went of to her room.

What I don't understand is that DH found out SD14 has been talking to boys over Skype, and that these are boys that are not from her current school or her old school. He questions this, but he still allows her to have free, unsupervised access to the internet in her room on her tablet? Who knows what is going on in there! With all the sexting and crap these kids do these days (especially since she has a history of talking to older boys)...if I had any say, she would not be allowed unsupervised access! I would be holding her tablet for her, and if she wanted to use it, she could do it out on the couch with the rest of the family around!