So... Neither one of my SD's have lifted a hand in my house in MONTHS! We are extremely tight on money right now as well. DH comes home the other night from picking up SD16 at BM's. SD14 was picked up early because BM and SD16 were once again bullying her because she doesn't want to live there. SD16 shoved her up against some cabinets and SD14 yelled "Don't touch me" SD16 replied with "I can touch you if I want to". Which is true, because BM allows it. SD16 is always beating up on SD14 at BM's house. It is a NON issue at ours, because it isn't allowed. Anyway... DH comes in our bedroom, and says "SD16 wants to know if there is anyway she can make $30 to buy her BF a birthday gift." I didn't say anything. I brought it up again last night thinking he brought it up to me so we could discuss it... NOT. He already told her "You know you guys can make money, there is plenty to do." They are suppose to get an allowance for chores, but have not done ANYTHING for MONTHS. So I just let it go, and I am back to being the maid, but now she wants $30 and she can just have it?? My mom just sent me money to buy our toddler a $40 car seat, but we can hand out money for her BF's birthday.

She was suppose to get a job this summer. DH said he was going to make her... didn't happen, but lets keep handing out the money. We just had a huge blow out because WE (DH and myself) don't care about her, don't do anything for her, only BM does... why doesn't she ask BM??? DH won't make do anything but "straighten up" either. She will unload the dishwasher, and pick up the living room, two or three times, and he will hand her this money, I know he will... I am just so sick of this crap!!