Sd27 was here this weekend with sgs8months and she is planning a 1st birthday party for him; his birthday is the day before TG this year and this year is DH's family thanksgiving meal and sd is planning the party for the day after at a neutral place and it'll be fun and all but BM#1 is going to be there. DH's immediate response to sd announcing this party and bm being there was "cool, I haven't seen her in 20 years, it'll be fun". Ok so now I am going to be a wreck by the time this party happens. I am already trying to think of things to keep us from driving to the family TG meal and that dreaded b'day party.

So now I am looking for input into how any of you ladies have handled events where you've had to go to mutual events with the BM there? I thought the one event we'd probably only have to endure with BM#1 is perhaps sd's wedding. Bm#1 is friends on FB with my mil and sil and is very much still in good standing with the family, she was even friends with bm#2 and it's all a big chummy group. So how is it going to be when DH and I walk into the restaurant? What if she is sitting with some of the family and what if DH and her get to talking about good ol' times, b/c they were high school sweethearts? OMG, I am getting myself into a tizzy over this. At least sd was sane enough to turn down bm#1's invitation to have the party at her house.