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Submitted by newbiestepmom25 on Fri, 06/21/2013 - 3:04pm

DH actually had to grab SS10 by the back of his shirt and escort him back to his room yesterday like five times. I kept throwing consequences out like no video games, no tv, no bike he kept on saying he doesn't care. I told him no sweets for the rest of the summer and he huffed his way to his room and stayed. He will be grounded the whole weekend because all of that was un-necessary. BM2 called to talk to him I told her he may use the phone on Monday when he is not grounded. She went of on me trailer trash style yelling "let me talk to my baby, let me talk to my damn kid". DH talked to her and stood his ground and she yells "if that bimbo bitch is treating my baby wrong that's her ass right der". DH hung up she kept calling back he answered and was very firm with his ruling on the punishment and even told her every time she says something rude or disrespectful he his hanging up on her so props to DH. She left a nasty voicemail later on.

" If you guys are treating my baby wrong so help me God. Bimbo bitch better know her place she ain't got no right to be discipline any child of mine. And DH you better not be treating him bad. He came to see yo ass and you put him on punishment Clap for the best dad of the year. Don't make me have to come down der and kick some ass."

DH called her back and told her that voicemail was recorded and She said she don't give a fuck. So whatever. I am rolling my eyes so freakin hard right now.

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Submitted by tweetybird74 on Fri, 06/21/2013 - 3:10pm

I understand grounding the child, but you should not be grounding them from seeing/speaking with their parent. Take away the games, TV, bikes etc, but stopping them from talking to their parent?

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Submitted by newbiestepmom25 on Fri, 06/21/2013 - 3:20pm

No offense but I'm not asking you to understand. I'm venting. He will talk to her on Monday he will survive the only good that will come from talking to her now is him whining about how mean we are and her trying to curse us out more. So he will survive until Monday. Punishments in our house are no nothing but books. Plus she is a hypocrite if he is grounded at her house she won't let DH talk to him either.

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Submitted by tryingmom on Fri, 06/21/2013 - 4:09pm

Good for you!!! Sounds as if this child needs some parenting and he is getting it. Trailer trash threats are just that.

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Submitted by Kilgore SMom on Fri, 06/21/2013 - 3:16pm

Sounds like BM needs to have another drink. Her ignorance is showing. No wonder why you have problems with SS.
Since when is disciplining a child wrong?

Yeap BM just made MOTY! LOL

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Submitted by lac925 on Sun, 06/23/2013 - 1:22pm

Good on your DH for actually disciplining his son, as it seems like BM is doing jack sh*t (well, other than running her mouth off)!

@stepdown - it may seem like a "double standard", but for YEARS, the BMs were always allowed to do whatever the f*ck they wanted and the dads were the bad guys. It still IS that way. The biodads ALWAYS get a bad rap, purely because of what BMs say/do. BMs like playing the victim, even though it takes TWO people to contribute to the breakdown of a marriage. And BMs are usually jealous of the SMs, so they go out of their way to make our lives hell.

But my viewpoint is this: whichever house the skids are in at the time, the mother or father of that house should be responsible for disciplining. So if skid is grounded at dad's house, then he's grounded and should follow dad's house rules. Same if it was the mom's house. BM should not try to alter the father's house rules - she doesn't live there (and vice versa).

Double standard or not, newbiestepmom25's DH did the right thing.