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Is it wrong to be angry that I get no kind of anything on fathers day?

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Submitted by RPM on Sun, 06/16/2013 - 2:15am

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I don't want to come off the wrong way but I feel that eventhough I am a stepparent a simple " happy fathers day" isn't asking to much. We have been together for almost 3 years now. And it does bother me that no one gives me any credit what so ever. I am starting to think I am just here for a roof over their heads. But my question to everyone is this. Is it wrong for me to be bothered by the fact I feel like I am just totally left out in the cold on fathers day? I don't know if I am taking things wrong or what. But I just feel like I am the one who is around every day. Yet I get zero respect. The girls see there father every other weekend and that's it. Am I just being a jerk?

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Submitted by RPM on Sun, 06/16/2013 - 2:35am

Thank you for taking the time to respond. I really just wanted to make sure I wasn't being overly selfish.. Just hard sometimes when you are left out of pretty much everything. Except for paying the bills of course lol. I really do appreciate the response. Makes me feel a lot better. I hope you have a nice night/day

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Submitted by Stepstress610 on Sun, 06/16/2013 - 11:17am

You're not wrong.... You should get the respect and a hug --- you've done a great job for them and you deserve it. I would have hoped your wife would have encouraged/persuaded/demanded that they did this for you (if they are not the sort of kids who can be generous spontaneously.....) well done and good luck

BTW, my DH got no cards from his Bio sons! One is on holiday and forgot and the other is too wrapped up in his own Fathers day with his young kids.... they sent a 'Happy Fathers Day' text instead..... (and only because they will want something off him soon.......)

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Submitted by Kes on Sun, 06/16/2013 - 6:09am

I have got a Mother's Day card once in 10 years of step parenting. My DH got a card and a present today, first time for about 6 years. So the SKIDs are not just thoughtless to me, but to him as well. IMO they are ungrateful, entitled little Madams.

I'm sorry your SKIDs disappointed you - but that's step life, on the whole.

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Sun, 06/16/2013 - 7:24am

My husband always gets something nice from my bios. You are helping raise the children and you are their father too. Sorry your wife doesn't see it that way....

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Submitted by Mrs. Why on Sun, 06/16/2013 - 9:47am

You're not being selfish..... The truth is u are a father figure. To you that deserves at least a " Happy Fathers Day" and rightfully so.

However, kids don't usually see it this way. Hopefully your wife/so tells you happy Father's Day, and acknowledges the thankless job you do for her child. Possibly that will help ease the hurt a bit?