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Ss bday drama

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Submitted by young but wise on Sat, 05/04/2013 - 2:47pm

Atoll i all of SO is that he picks a day and time for Ss bday party. I will do everything else i just need to know when and what time. Mind you his bday is on the 17th... That is already only two weeks away and we are already pushing it for having anybody attend. I say "hey the Saturday after his bday is or day. Want to have it then? His response is "will we week have to see when she wants to do something. I know she will want to and she was planning on doing a joint party so..." I say "i already told you i will not be going to a joint one, nor will i invite my family and friends to that one" and of course i am the one who started the fight now. Last years attempt at a joint party was horrible. She put byob on the invite and she slept for the entire thing because "she took the wrong amount of meds" grrrr not my fault that his bday party will be thrown together last minute with only a few people there... And bd bday party will be well planned and have all of our friends and family there.

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Submitted by young but wise on Sat, 05/04/2013 - 5:45pm

She can plan her party however she wants and I have no problem at all with him going. I on the other hand have no desire to socialize with her. We did a joint party last year but last year we were all getting along. This year SO and I decided to have a seperate one from the start. Then she called and said she would like to do a joint one again. I told him that if he wanted to go to hers that I completely support that, but that I would also like to have our own for him so that we can invite my family and his friends. BM doesn't invite any children to his party. It is more like an adult get together. It is all her family and HER friends. I told him that I would like to invite his best friend and then three children from his pre school class. My family would be invited to this one and it would be a day about him and not about booze, pills, or sociallizing with OUR friends. I told him that if he picked a day and time that I would take care of the invites, shopping, decorating, cake, games, and everything else. He wont pick a date because he "doesn't know what BM has planned and when." Well it is now exactly two weeks away... even if he picked a day and time tonight I wouldn't have the invites out til at least monday. Not to mention we still have to decide where we would like to have it/ what we would like to do. We have to pick a cake/theme. We have to give people enough notice to take off of work...(grandparents and my parents)All I want is for SS to have a birhtday party that he enjoys. I sure as hell do not want to hear a word about how much better BD bday party is come time to throw her one. I don't want to hear that it is because I favor her. GRRRR This child means the world to me and I just want to give him all that he deserves. Why does BM AND SO have to make it so difficult????