Atoll i all of SO is that he picks a day and time for Ss bday party. I will do everything else i just need to know when and what time. Mind you his bday is on the 17th... That is already only two weeks away and we are already pushing it for having anybody attend. I say "hey the Saturday after his bday is or day. Want to have it then? His response is "will we week have to see when she wants to do something. I know she will want to and she was planning on doing a joint party so..." I say "i already told you i will not be going to a joint one, nor will i invite my family and friends to that one" and of course i am the one who started the fight now. Last years attempt at a joint party was horrible. She put byob on the invite and she slept for the entire thing because "she took the wrong amount of meds" grrrr not my fault that his bday party will be thrown together last minute with only a few people there... And bd bday party will be well planned and have all of our friends and family there.