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Blended family? Or not so blended?

Almw2486's picture

Hey everyone. I am a young mother of a two year old. My son is mine from a previous relationship in which the father signed his rights. While I was pregnant and separated from the bio dad, I met my now husband. My husband was there for my sons birth and is for all purposes, my child's father. The problem that I am having is that when I married my husband not even a year ago, I also had the opportunity to become a step mom to his beautiful two daughters, 12 and 13. I am just wondering if anyone out there has a similar situation? Usually when I meet stepparents etc, it seems they have kids that are older, all the parents have been somewhat involved, meaning both bio parents on each side. My situation is different because my son is my husbands but don't share the same DNA. I have a wonderful relationship with the girls mom and her new husband. The problems we are encountering is that the youngest, the 12 yr old has been acting out lately. This is to include having the cops called on her father for false accusations. I feel like she is just attempting to get attention. I don't understand that though because she gets more than enough attention from all the parents, step parents, grandparents and friends that surround our non traditional family. Someone please give me some advice. And let me know if anyone else has a dynamic such as ours. I feel so alone in all this, that no one truly understands our unique life.

Almw2486's picture

Great:/ I was hoping it would be something easy to fix! Smile I am actually having her over Friday night to stay with me and the two year old so that I can have a talk with her. Just open, non threatening chat. I want her to be comfortable and know that she can talk openly with me. Her father has been out of state. He's military. Hopefully this will help open things up as far as communication goes.

ta5's picture

Nope cant fix it, you have two families under one roof, you have no control over SD.
Good luck, combined families across the board say the same thing. Daddy disney spoils and you cant parent. She will do everything to call attention to negative. You took dad his time money and affection as well as your son. Negative attention is just as good if not better she will grow up to always seek attention

Protect yourself you took her dad away! The son and you are a threat she will never accept you, she will be jealous and always hurt. Now she has to share. Like my sd she wants mom and dad back together anything else is not going to fly. Tippie toe around her and becareful it was always be about her and divided. Yeah another warning I thought I had a good relationship with bm... not she is talking behind my back and hates me too. Even if she was the one that left you fixed him you have her daughter and you sleep with him now ... be fore warned.

Attention ; no attention could ever be enough, things , unlimited things would never be enough. Shall I go on. You cant fix the divorce and surely dont want to.

I have learned alot on this site already! Disengage