SD'd hair for cancer patients UPDATE****
For those of you who have read my previous blog entry about BM telling DH that she is thinking about having SD5 cut her butt length hair to donate it to cancer patients... Just skip until after the asterisks... If you want some background info, then just read through...
Well, I do not think is a decision someone like SD5 should be left with... Many times, she says YES to something but when that "something" actually comes reality, she doesn't want it/like it... My 3 major reasons of why I think this is not the greatest idea are...
1) SD5 knows nothing about charity, she has never been exposed to it, and she had a hard time understanding that there are kids that don't have family nor material things; Therefore I think that starting by taking her to see sick cancer patients, etc... should be better, to get her familiar with...
2) She is NOT mature at all, those are concepts that I KNOW she has a hard time understanding in theory, she needs practical examples, such as seeing cancer kids or something, or seeing the process of making the wigs, etc...
3) She LOVES her hair long, and I don't think she would react very positively to it...
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Well, Everytime I happen to go through the channels I have to skip the Tyra Banks show because I know SD5 will say "That's my mommy's show, we always watch it" hmmm OK....
So that whole hair conversation was yesterday... today, I happened to put that channel (SD5 was taking a nap) and I wasn't even thinking, I turned the TV on and grabbed the computer, in the show, they were cutting hair and donating it... HMMMM...
SOUNDS SUSPISCIOUS....
:? Doesn't it???????????????
Well, later on, I had this conversation:
ME: SD, do you wanna cut your hair?
SD: Well, Kinda... (with a sad face)
ME: What do you mean?
SD: I like my hair long, but I will send it to a kid without hair
ME: Did your mommy ask you to do this?
SD: yea...
:O I just find it wrong...
First of all, I wouldn't do that to my 5 year old child, I would wait until the child is at least 7 or so, and first, I would expose my child to the reality of cancer, and then show her how those wigs are made and how she would look like with her hair shoulder length, I would also try to motivate her and give her ideas of styling her hair... THEN I wouldn't ask her to do such thing, I would let the decision to be hers and only hers... and let her know that is OK if she doesn't donate her hair, but she can also do other things such as giving some toys away, or visiting sick kids, etc...
Oh well.. that's just me... maybe I should stay out of it, and not influence on DH...
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I understand what you are saying and if BM is forcing the issue on a child who doesn't want to do it, then I get where you are. But I also think it's a responsibility to not just teach your child about cancer and what other kids go through and donating to them. It's about the bigger picture of self esteem. Like I said in my reply before. This is something I had to deal with first hand at a young age - 17 years old! I was one of those late bloomers who left 11th grade flat as a board with "normal - not too thick, not too thin" nice brown long hair. I came back into 12th grade with boobs and thick long hair that literally had people stopping me and complementing me! Great big ego boost! Great big self esteem boost! Until illness that very same year of high school took it away and I was completely bald for a long time. Had to buy wigs that weren't very nice at that point. It killed me and my self esteem. To this day. I understand you don't want to cut it. I understand she may not really want to cut it. And she doesn't have to. Just please please please be sure that this little girl knows that her long beautiful hair is NOT her. It has nothing to do with her value as a person. Whether she's 5 years old, 7 years old, 17 years old, or 45 years old. It's an important message.