Well this is the first time I've ever used one of these but I feel like I need an outlet and some advice off people who have been there!
It started two years ago, I met a really handsome lovely bloke at work who was a good few years older than me, doesn't look it tho. Got chatting, found out recently separated due to wife knocking off some soldier (they were very good friends apparently) and he had two kids a 5 year old little man and an 8 year old little girl. You could tell he was smitten with them. We went out on dates, he was still living in the family home, he was open and honest with the wife and she said she was happy for him! After a while I met the children, lovely kids and got on straight away and have done ever since. A while later she demanded he had to move out for her welfare and basically blackmailed him out using their kids well being as the bribe. He left but as she was arguing over every penny (she wanted it all) he couldn't afford to rent a place on his own so we moved in together. He was allowed to see the kids when she said which wasn't very often and when he asked to see them more often she claimed he was harassing her. She would not talk to him unless through a solicitor which we all know costs a fortune, figures were decided then back tracked on, usual stuff no doubt. We planned a holiday away just me and him, got told he was a shit dad as he left them for a week n should have taken them, she went skiing for a week without them , nothing said. We then planned a holiday abroad including the kids and after asking for permission, permission granted, booking and paying deposit, she changed her mind and we received a solicitors letter stating we weren't allowed to take them as she was concerned she would not receive a phone all from them! We were only going for a week. When we attempted to make contact with her we were harassing her so had to go through solicitors, in total it cost£800 to take them on holiday! She changed her mind multiple times including a week before we went!
We had to ring her at specified times whist away and if not then we wouldn't be allowed to take them away again. But when she sods off she rings them every night and if she can't get through we get multiple missed calls emails messages! Very ironic.
Recently the two year anniversary of their separation has come up, no closer to divorce as she is claiming poverty earning £36,000.00 getting £450 a month csa she's moved the soldier in she was knocking off, so poor is she she failed to pay her mortgage for three months preventing us from getting even a new car! We have recently chased her up regarding the divorce and access to his children, her reply this evening has been to ring me whilst he's at work, have a pop at me, then ring him on his job phone tell him he's harassing her AGAIN, hang up on him then get her boy friend to ring him again on his job phone call my partner a bully boy and to stop harassing her, then proceeded to tell him that they were all a happy family and everything she does is for the good of her the children her new partner and his child which has devastated my partner.
I don't know what to do anymore. I feel like poo and my partner feels like poo and I have no doubt that the kids know this is going on. Horrible situation.