Sad Stuff
Off topic but not...
A fellow co-worker just went through a divorce about a year ago. He had 3 sons. His oldest was 15. On this past Tuesday his son took his own life. The funeral is today. It was not real common knowledge but some people knew that it was a bad divorce and that the kids were having a really hard time with everything. Now I do not know if that is why his son did this but it is said that the father believes that was the reason.
So that brings out my point. People divorce due to cheating, domestic violence, grown apart or whatever. Then the divorce is nasty and after that is setteled the parents use the kids back and forth to hurt the other one all the while only worried about self gratification and not thinkint about what it is doing to the child. So many of have asked the questions does her/she not see what they are doing to their child? or say they need to grow up and move on or you and the ex did this to yourselves don't take it out on or use the kids to get back at each other. We here on this site can see from outside what affects his has on the kids but this sitation is case and point that even we do not really know how deeply they are affected by the actions and outcomes of a divorce. And today a fellow co-worker of mine is blaming the actions of himself and exwife for the death other their oldest son.
Like I said Sad Stuff....
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My condolences to your co-worker
This is a sad story. Divorce is a new thing to me as my parents are still together, but DH was a victim of a nasty divorce. He was old enough to see through his mother's PAS, but his brother and sister are a mess to this day (20 years later).
It is so sad to know that that boy was distraught enough to take his own life to avoid his sadness. I have worried that SD14 might crack one day because of her mother's crap, but luckily she has DH and I to counter BM's crazy. Counseling is a wonderful thing, and sometimes the saving grace for kids. I think judges should make it mandatory in divorces so that kids have time and a safe place to sort through their feelings.
I agree 100%
that judges should make counseling mandatory for the kids so they can learn ways to appropriately vent their feelings.
I'm so sorry about your co-worker's son. He and his family are in my thoughts and prayers.