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Freudian Slip!!!

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Submitted by CandyLou on Thu, 01/10/2013 - 7:14am

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Wait for it, SO keeps saying "I'm sorry, I'll try harder" to which I replied, "what is the actual action that will take place" he says "I'm going to reduce the exclusion..." What!!!! Wouldn't the decent thing to say be "the exclusion will stop" I said "that's like a gang of bullies in the playground going up to their victim and saying "hey, instead of bullying you and excluding you daily, we will reduce it to 3 times per week"...are you kidding me!!!

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Submitted by CandyLou on Thu, 01/10/2013 - 7:34am

Oh believe me I'm not!! I went out last night, SO got home before me and was texting me, "where are you?" Then when I got home, not a word about being with skids, it was "how was your night? What were you doing?" I don't want to be at these dinners, but don't tell me you are reducing the exclusion for goodness sake!!!

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Submitted by giveitago on Thu, 01/10/2013 - 8:38am

What an idiot! Let him know that he'll exclude you once too often! I am pleased he asked about your night...hey...it had to be better than his! LOL it would have him wondering too!
I agree with stepaside, it is fear; and the fear of handling it any differently too. It's a 'recovery' process for our guys in my belief. It's also a huge transition for a kid to go from getting it all their way to coming to a compromise. I'd let him know that with compromise you each have to give and lose a little ground...right?

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Submitted by StepX2 on Thu, 01/10/2013 - 11:48am

I just read your past blogs and saw the one from April 2011 about Easter at the skids place.
Now I'm just curious...how did all of that work out?

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Submitted by CandyLou on Fri, 01/11/2013 - 2:48am

Thanks for your responses everyone! StepX2, I can't even remember that Easter now, so I'm glad you asked so I could realise that we do get over things!! I read the post mentioning I felt sick about going there. I know that was after the Christmas my SO left for four days to spend Christmas with his kids (adult kids)! and in regards to that actual incident, I have to admit that I still do think about that from time to time and resent him, but for the most part I am over that.

Good reminder that "this too shall pass..."

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Sat, 01/12/2013 - 7:33am

You're on the right track. Everytime he's gone the house is locked up, the water supply turned off (so no floods) and you're on your merry way. Lets see, Vegas, Santa Barbara, New Orleans, New York City or just a little visit with Mom or the girlfriends... the list is endless.

Note: turn off the hot water heater also so there is no expansion and burst pipes.