OK, so my step kids are driving me absolutely crazy with their behavior recently!

OK, my 14 year old step daughter. Graduating grade 8 this year. We recently found out that the school is not allowing her to participate in graduation ceremonies because she has missed 70 of the 188 instructional days this year! :jawdrop: 37% of the school year she has missed, she has also had something like 35 lates. They are still passing her since the school board apparently doesn't fail kids anymore. I think that is a load of bullshit. She has some how hooked up with hanging out with an older group of kids 16-17 years old. So now their bad influence is getting her into underage drinking, drugs and sex. We also found out she has been shop lifting.

So, we find out about all this on Friday, that night her mother takes her to the movies with her brother. She has her weekend with us, she is bitchy and talks back all weekend like you wouldn't believe. At the end of the weekend, she takes home her laptop computer from our house (which I am paying for), my boyfriend allows it because he doesn't want to fight with her. Her mother laughs at the fact that she is shop lifting, she hasn't taken away her cell phone. My boyfriend is trying to get her for the summer (oh joy) to try and knock some sense into her, but we don't think the mother will agree to that. He also wants to take her for the next school year but again, we don't know if she will let that happen.

My step son, well he constantly takes things home with him without asking. He never does anything he is told to do unless money is involved. He is destructive, lazy and bugs his sister non-stop. He refuses to take his meds for ADHD so he is so out of control all the time.

I am really at my wits end. The mother of these kids doesn't want to be anything but the cool mom and my boyfriend seems like he feels powerless to do anything about it, so he doesn't. I seem like the bitch and he and I are constantly fighting about this. We plan to try and have one together ourselves, which means I will have to always be mean mom and he will be the one they go to when mom won't let them.

HELP SOMEONE PLEASE!!!