I have my own business, I am a tax preparer and I am at the end of my off-season.  I am new to the area and trying to build my business as quick as possible.  I also run my husbands business, but he has no sense about how to run a business and build any new business.  We had a bad business year with his business, and now we are in such debt.  He has made poor financial decisions that has practically put us in the poor house.  Recovery of that is just around the corner.  As for my daughter she thrives in homeschool, and me working from home makes that possible.  My SS and husband are the serious issues in our lives and always have been.  I am at the end of my rope with this situation, and I busting my butt to gain financial control again, and I will.  I was a single mom for 20 years prior to this marriage, and very capable of having my own business as it was quite successful until I got married moved to another state and took on the BS I should have never.  I have a huge heart and have always try to take care of everyone, because my husband is minimal.  Thank you for your support.

Update on my disrespectful husband and SS.  Well it’s day 5 and my husband is still giving me the silent treatment as if he and his son is the victim.  I have tried communicating with him via text and no response.  Every text became rageful at times as it’s so hard to swallow my husband disengaging from me as well as my youngest girl 9 as that is his go to every time we get in a fight.  I told him he was putting our relationship last and our marriage in the dump.  Christmas is a week away and I don’t want my little girl to be under the stigma in this house that my husband continues to choose.  He is acting very selfish and putting his needs of being self righteous over the family and me.  I don’t know how to handle this holiday under these circumstances.  All my husband had to do was apologize and it would not have escalated to this level but his silence says I was wrong for how I handled his son.  But this kid needed to suffer the consequences of his actions as his dad never follows through or dishes out any of it.  My husband is a man child and rather stick his head in the sand than deal at the expense of our marriage.  I am seeking counseling for myself this week as I need it.  This is the worst holiday season I have ever experienced.  I know what I have to do for future it’s the present that’s an issue as my home is divided and stressfully tense when he is home. 

I just saw my SS walk out the front door as I have the Ring camera so I called him to see what is going on and he said he could not sleep he has a lot on his mind I didn’t push I just said to be safe.  In spite of everything that has happened I do still care but I am afraid to get too involved and it backfire again.  He has had suicidal houghts when he came to live with us two years ago as his BM really did some damage to his mental health we got him into counseling and at 13 then  and he was fine on the surface.  I still believe that is still the case.  He has been going out if his way since the explosion last week thanking me for making dinner doing his chores voluntarily.  Yet his Father makes no moves towards our relationship to try and fix the mess he created with me as a result of his sons behavior.  I hear the hurt and fear in my SS voice and face.  None of my husband’s two children the other a dtr 22 and lives in Hawaii, feel they can ever talk to him about things growing up.  He continues this toxic path in dealing with his children. I know my SS feels responsible for the fight between me and my husband but I cannot force my husband to break his silence.  He is so out of touch with reality.  I don’t want to continue to show more  care for my SS than his bio parents but I can’t ignore  it either so I texted him offered to talk with him tomorrow and that everything will be fine.  In the past he has made comments when his father re in acts the game of silence.  By saying my Dad is being childish by not talking to you.   It’s sad to hear.  but I can only control my actions and no one else.  I see and hear the regret of choices he made and how far he pushed the defiance with me  but it’s not his fault for his fathers choice to handle things in such an adverse way.  He is in fear of losing the only stable mother figure he has ever had.  My husband has got to get a reality check on how his actions are affecting this entire family.  I won’t hold my breath he is stubborn in such an unhealthy way and will not take ownership of his bad choices.  All I can do is pray.  I’m going to talk to my SS as the air must be cleared between us he is a kid that should not have the burden of such things especially the relationship between me and his father.  SS has displayed today of being more of a man than his father.   Feedback would be very much appreciated.