Completely understand the need to vent! I've sometimes been afraid of DH or his ex finding my posts here, but then there is a small part of me that wishes they would! Maybe if they saw that other people also thought that they weren't standing up to do their jobs and that their precious princess is growing up to be one of those adults that will walk around thinking the world owes them and they don't have to do anything to earn their way through life, that maybe, just maybe they would do something about it!

From one step to another, I totally understand how you feel! It is very difficult when the skids do not show any respect, and their bio-parents don't demand that, at the very least, their children show you some sort of respect just for being an adult human being! Like my case...I don't want to replace SD14's mom...of course, I pray every day that BM will finally snap out of whatever world she is in and actually do her job as a mom...but I never wanted to replace her mom. That is why I don't feel it is my place to have to correct her about anything...be it cleaning up after herself, not lying, etc. That should be coming from her dad, and my only role is to stand up in support of his rules. But when he has no rules, well, one can only get frustrated at the chaos it causes!