Squeeeeeeee!
I am wanting to laugh so hard right now! I know it is wrong, but I can't help myself!!
DH shares with me tonight that BM and the stepdad made HHB drop out of color guard as quick as she made varsity! Their excuse is that they have to move, and they don't know where they are going to land...so it is best if she just drop out and not get too involved, because she will not be able to stay the entire season. Apparently she is being super b***hy to DH today. Most of the calls have been because BM can't find HHB birth certificate or social security card, and she thinks we have them. I told DH, "I have in my files her SSN written on a piece of paper, and we have never had a copy of her birth certificate! It has always gotten sent over with her records from the other school whenever we had to enroll her here, and they were fine with that." Oh, and there was another call from HHB because apparently BM was asking for the child support through HHB! Seriously? These are all conversations that BM should be having with DH directly, not through HHB!
I really, really hope that DH isn't trying to go soft and trying to get HHB to move back here without discussing with me! He already knows where I stand on that topic! Just to reiterate how I feel about that without bringing it up, I said to DH, "Maybe this will all be a learning experience for her! So she had to drop out of guard...a result of all of her decisions over the last couple of weeks! Maybe she will realize now that bad decisions can cause you to lose what you love the most! All she had to do was take her lumps for her first poor decision, but nooooooooo...she had to go run and play victim, telling everyone that all you do is yell at her, and that I'm a big meanie...to the point that her mother demanded she move back with her, and now she loses guard! Now, she needs to live with her decisions!" DH said something to the tune of, "Yeah, we had that talk." I am guessing she is being super b***hy to him, because he said he didn't know what was going on with her...that he told her she needs to figure it out and sit and talk with him at some point.
It is going to be interesting to see how all of this plays out! Pray for me that HHB coming back to this house is the farthest thing from anyone's minds! She has to stay at BM's...I can't take any more. Even better yet, pray that they up and move 100 miles away like they have done before, so maybe she won't come over at all!
She can want all she wants!
She can want all she wants! It isn't up to her! One thing I do have working for me is that BM has her and that child support check back. It takes a whole lot to make BM give that up! Another thing I have working by in my favor is she continues to be a b***h to DH! I just need a little more time to make DH see life of living in an empty nest. He is already seeing benefits...we can do more things with our adult friends, going on a vacation is much easier, etc. Not to mention, I'm not in a crappy mood all the time from dealing with the mess, the lies, and the drama!
Brilliant advice!!!! We have
Brilliant advice!!!! We have been empty nesters for nearly 5 years and it has been amazing. We both miss the kid (SS-22) but he clearly understands that he has launched and this is a no return policy process. He enjoys his independence too much to desire to move back home.
I suppose there is always the
I suppose there is always the chance SD is lying (not unheard of from her). Maybe she's trying to save face because she really didn't make the cut. Does seem strange that they would let her try out and then the same day tell her 'oh, no, you can't be on it we might move'. Why put a kid through that?
I'm just tossing it out there as a possible thought. Too Big For Her Britches Smarty Pants thought it was real cool to move back to BM's where she thought she would do what she wants. Hard as it is to feel poorly for her, if what she says about trying out, making it and then having to immediately quit is an a**hole thing for her BM to do to a kid. The way you've talked about SD's behavior I can't imagine her just being a bit b*tchy and whining, more like she would go into total meltdown temper tantrum of all hissy fits mode.
Could be she got over there thinking she's 'all that' only to find out she had a lot better girls and stiffer competition than she was use to.
Oh well anyway, whatever the case is, I hope things go ok for her over at BM's and that your house has a chance to settle down and have some peace and bit of a break from all the non-stop drama.
I'm not sure what is going on
I'm not sure what is going on over at BM's (nor do I really care). It is possible that this moving thing was sprung on BM and stepdad. They do rent a house, and you know how that goes sometimes...landlord sells the house out from under you and you don't know until you get that notice that you have X amount of time to be out. I don't think they let her try out knowing they had to move...BM wants too much for her precious princess to be happy to do something like that!
So far, it isn't looking like HHB is trying to come back here...yet. On her social media, she is in her state of depression...this is her version of a tantrum...and when she is in this mode, she is a b***h to everyone. Strange though...I notice in her recent selfie posts to her social media, she has a nose ring? I'm talking septum piercing! It could be that she is wearing one of those fake ones you can get at Spencers, but considering her and her friends were at a tattoo shop last week, and her friends were getting various piercings. Depending on the shop, she may have gotten the real deal. I mean, yes...if she is under 18 and didn't have a parent there to sign for her with birth certificate in hand and such, the shop could get into big trouble! But many of us know there are ways...that some shops think they will never get caught or are just that shady. I mean, those have been the rules for piercings since I was a teen, and I still managed to get my second piercing in my ear without my parents! Got in huge trouble when mom found out, but I still got it. I'm wondering if this is why she is avoiding DH. If she did get her septum pierced and can't take it out for a certain amount of time, then yeah, she is going to avoid DH like the plague! It's in the middle of her face...she can't hide it like she did her other piercings in her ear without his permission. And for all we know, BM probably gave the okay for the septum piercing! It may be one of those "promises" she made to HHB. Either way, HHB (and BM if she gave permission) KNOWS that DH would not approve and would go ape shit crazy! Don't get me wrong...he has nothing against body mods...he has a tattoo, I have a tattoo (want another) and a couple of extra ear piercings, BS20 has a tattoo, BD23 has a few tattoos and bars in the cartilage of her ears and a belly button piercing. He is just a firm believer in waiting until you are 18 to make such decisions!
I'm a little more at ease
I'm a little more at ease after talking to DH today. I was on the phone with him talking insurance stuff about my car...we are having problems with the insurance of the guy who hit us...two weeks and we have yet to talk to his rep. I tell DH that when I saw the other guy had some small insurance company (not one of the major insurers), I had a feeling we would have problems! DH makes some comment, "Yeah, they probably thing if they ignore it it will just go away...you know, like HHB!" (Of course, he used her actual name.) I didn't catch what he was saying and asked "What?" "Well, she thinks if she just at ignores it all, it will just go away! She has her head so far up her ass right now, I don't know if it is even possible to get it out!" I don't know what was said yesterday, or how it was said, but DH was sure sounding fed up with the girl! I take an opportunity to bring up the pictures on Facebook HHB posted today..."Is it just me, or does it look like she got her septum pierced?" DH says it wouldn't surprise him...HHB gets to do whatever she wants in "that house"! I just calmly mention that isn't it against the court order for BM to sign off on that kind of thing without consulting him..."I highly doubt her mom signed off on anything! If it's a real piercing, I'm sure she found a way to not need BM's okay!"
It is sounding more and more like DH's eyes are finally wide open! This is good because it means he isn't even thinking about the girl move by back in with us!! He even said today, "Oh well...she is just going to have to live with her decisions this time!"
Well, the latest is
Well, the latest is supposedly that BM's friend wants to help with this guard thing so much, that she is even willing to let HHB stay with her if it comes down to it to keep HHB in the school! This could get interesting!
LOL...sadly, credit should be
LOL...sadly, credit should be given to HHB and company! Without their antics, there would be nothing to write about!
Gotta love BD23!! She saw
Gotta love BD23!! She saw HHB's post on Instagram about having to move again, and she let her have it! BD23 told HHB that she needs to quit running away from her problems...it doesn't help anything, as everywhere you go, there is going to be SOME problem or another. She told her straight, "You can't run from your problems in real life, so you better start learning to live with them!"
I hadn't even talked to BD23 about anything that went on yet, but she knows how HHB is. BD23 doesn't have to know the details to get that HHB did something, and is now trying to avoid sleeping in the bed she has made for herself!
I wouldn't even talk about
I wouldn't even talk about her any more and keep comments to your DH to a minimum. Definitely show him what life is like HHB-free! My DH darn near tripped over his tongue when he came home to me cleaning the bathroom in bra, g-string, stockings and heels. Another time, he came home to me cooking dinner while wearing an apron and a smile.
Oh...HE is the one that keeps
Oh...HE is the one that keeps bringing the crap up...like I care! "Oh...talked to HHB today, and....." I just pull the whole nod and ignore routine. He doesn't get that I don't want to hear about it. But what he does share...if it is funny enough, I can't help but share with you guys...LOL.
Your BD23 is awesome! This
Your BD23 is awesome! This is one of your best posts yet! Karma is a BITCH, ain't it HHB? Bwahahahaha!!!! }:)
~ Moon
Yeah, you gotta love that
Yeah, you gotta love that girl!!! BD23 has never been one to sugar coat anything. She is a "tell it like it is" person. Always has been...to the point of embarrassing me sometimes when she was little because she would just blurt things out (like when she saw the MAN at the grocery store wearing make-up, and she blurts out that guys aren't supposed to wear make-up...I about died). Would love to hear BD23 lay into HHB for her latest stunt (see the thread about HHB's little car accident). Oh, I can hear my dear daughter now, "What the HELL were you thinking? Oh yeah, you weren't thinking!! You could have killed someone!!! You are sooooooo lucky you aren't my kid! Girl, if I was back home, I'd beat you!"
Keep in mind, it was also BD23 who came for a visit and found the hall bathroom disgusting! She drug HBB in there and mad the girl scrub! It is probably a good thing that BD23 isn't planning on having kids...she is pretty satisfied with her dogs.