My 16 yr old SD has told us she cannot be punished. Contracts mean nothing to her. Any type of punishment results in her simply running away.

She has stolen from me since I met her, 2 yrs ago. Personal items, clothes, books, dvds, and the kicker: newly bought never worn black thigh high stockings!
Now she has "progressed" to stealing money straight from my wallet.

Her Dad won't kick her out, he want's to be her "last resort".
He says I am not forgiving enough and hold a grudge too long.
He keeps saying to give her another chance, give her another chance, give her another chance.

She has been living with us for one year now. She promised to change.
Her mother has kicked her out of their house for dropping out of school, smoking (both pot and cigs) excessive party behavior, stealing and basically being out of control.
But now the SD is doing the same crap she was doing with her mother, only we can't kick her out anywhere!

Oh, and she turned us into the German Youth Services (we live in Germany) because we weren't giving her enough pocket money (she refuses to do any chores for money. Already tried that route.) and she thinks we should have to pay for her to have her own apartment. (German law says she is too young.)

So now, bascially, she does as she pleases, and her father won't discipline because he is "tired of it" and says I am created the drama as much as she is.

I have just ordered a spycam to catch her stealing from my purse, to show her father, and see what he does when confronted with the evidence. I am not hoping for much at this point. He is as much the problem being so permissive as she is for being so aggressive.

And suggestions?