Lol. If it is any comfort, I would not consider it a comfort by the way and neither would my own parents, I was your son at his age. A very high performing intuitive student who did great academically but had zero self motivation. National Honor Society, Society of Distinguished American High School Students, Presidential Classroom for Young Americans, Hugh Obrien Youth Foundation Leadership Seminar, etc, etc, etc.... Valedictorian and Outstanding Graduating Senior of my HS class. Early acceptance to Princeton. I went to a school that was 7th grade through JC-2. Since it was a Military Boarding School the motivation was provided. I took at least one college class each semester from my sophomore year of HS and mostly college classes my Sr. year of high school.

Then I went off to university following high school graduation. There was no external structure. Not a pretty picture for my first two years. I flunked every class my first semester then made straight As the second semester retaking all of the same classes. My parents nearly killed me. The only thing that saved my cumulative GPA during my first two years of college was the nearly 30 semester hours of college credit I had from my HS studies.

After my second year of college I was on my own. Mom and dad would not pay for any of my college studies after I partied and skirted through their money for the first two years.

I was on the 11 year plan for my undergrad. And yes, I was in class every semester for 11 years. I was 20hrs from a BA in economics when I changed to engineering and finally buckled down to graduate. I walked across the stage with my degree 2wks after my 30th birthday. While in college I played college sports (football, track, swimming.)when I was academically eligible. I worked for all but 3 years of my 11 year plan. I matured, I learned, and I finished. Slower than most who finish but I did finish.

I started a business which I ran for 5 years until I sold out to my investment partners and used that money to pay for engineering school. After I put my life savings into my first two years of engineering school mom and dad decided I was serious and helped with my last two years.

If you can keep from strangling him as he matures and finds his own motivation don't sweat too much of his antics. He is will figure it out. He has good parents in his corner who will nudge him in the right direction we he needs it.

That is what got me through.

I like that

Would dearly love to "forget"

Why doesn't her father check the grades online himself instead of having SD check and report to him x amount of times? If the guy is seriously worried about his daughter failing and doing this crappy on her test and daily assignments why isn't he doing more on a nightly basis to be certain the kid is doing her work.

I don't 'buy' the ridiculous excuse of forgetting to turn a paper in. How does one do the work, put it in her folder, go into class the next day watching all the other kids turn in their homework , but forget to turn in their own? It's BS. She didn't do it in the first place.

No name on paper therefore no credit for doing an assignment? Again, BS. The kid needs to be taught to put her name the every first thing onto the paper. One doesn't sit down to a plate of dinner and tackle the food without first picking up the silverware to shove it into the mouth. Putting a name (and first thing) on a piece of paper can become just as automatic if someone takes the time to initially insist on it and reinforce it until it does become habit.

So much of my DD's school work is on the computers (even some of the text books) that I could never totally remove her computer and expect her to be able to do her complete homework. While their school assigned computer remains at school she can log onto it from her home computer and gain access to her work and complete her assignments. I can and do however ban internet surfing and goof off time , She has lost from time to time the fun part of playing around on her computer as a consequence , but not the necessity usage to be able to read/complete her school assigns. This pitching this part out in case your SD really does need limited access to a computer even if grounded from it.

It's not your place to assist your Sd with her school work nor to supervise and fight with her over doing it. Nope. That's Dad's job. If he gets angry enough she's failing her courses, he needs to step up and oversee the work. Not just take her word for it and not just phones away. He's going to have to become proactive and hands on or shut up and let her fail. It's is kid. His choice.