My husband has a 15 yr. old and from day one (we've been together for 6 years now)I havent been "allowed" to be part of her life. His daughter lives with his parents because her mother left her when she was an infant and my husband was stationed in Cali. Her mother is German so she just up and left without her and tried to come back when she was 3 thinking she was gonna take her back but she didnt and honestly I dont understand why my husband didnt allow her to cuz he isnt being a father to her anyway. His parents, well his mother, picks and chooses what he should do for her and he does it like a freakin puppet and it makes me sick to my stomach and makes me lose all respect for him.
As we started our relationship she would come over and hang out with us, play with my 3 bio-kids. I thought she was just gonna be a part of our life but as years went by she slowly stopped coming over, started stealing from my oldest daughter and then now has completely stopped coming over. We see her maybe 4 or 5 times a year and they live 7 minutes away. He doesnt make her come over to spend time with us or even get to know her 2 half siblings that we had during this time. My 4 yr. old (her half sis) "knows" that she's her sister but when asked who her mom and dad are she says my in laws, so its clear she doesnt understand the whole of it. It makes me sad.
I try to tell myself that its none of my business and to just get over it but it hurts each and every time he has to run over there and do something for her, paperwork wise like take her to get her drivers permit cuz he's the one that has to cuz he's her dad. That was the most recent stunt. He up and left one morning and I didnt know where he went and thats what he went to do. Didnt even tell me anything about it. If I could go back in time and rethink things thru on how I'd really feel about dealing with a step child I wouldnt I woulda straight up walked away FAST!!
She's a spoiled brat and gets the world from her grand parents (my inlaws). They dont anywhere near treat my kids, their bio grandkids like anything but aquaintances and it goes the same way with his brothers daughters. Only she is the favorite and thinks the world should kiss her butt. Its really sad that my husband has allowed her to be brought up this way cuz he tries to be Mr. strict with his step kids (my older 3). I hate it, I hate every bit of it and wish I could just be strong enough to up and walk out of my marriage but I love my husband so much.
I wish he knew how much it kills me that things ended up being this way. I just dont have the strength to tell him again cuz the last time I sorta brought it up, he just said to get used to it.
If you got this far thanks for reading. I guess I just needed to get it out.