My boyfriend's 14 year old daughter and I are pretty close. She is pretty open with me, we text, hang out alone, she knows my friends, etc. She is in 8th grade and a really good kid. She will be starting high school next year.

We were recently driving and she started talking to me about kids in her school. She was telling me that some of them smoke cigarettes, which she doesn't and never would.

She then said "I also think they're smoking something else. I know what cigarettes smell like, I've been to France or also around them. But this smells different"

I told her it was probably marijuana. She looked to me waiting for me to continue. I kind of stumbled and said something like "Well, marijuana isn't good for you. People do stupid things and make bad decisions when they're high, plus high people can be very annoying. It is also very dangerous to drive well high." She kind of took that and continued talking about other things.

She didn't ask yet if I've ever smoked pot, but I'm sure she will in the future. The truth is, I smoked a TON of pot in high school....I was high most of my junior year. I smoked here and there in college and after, but haven't in 3 years. I'm 26 now.

If she ever asks if I smoked, should I be honest with her? Should I say "yes, I've tried it, but it wasn't for me?" The fact that it is legalized in many states also makes it an interesting conversation. Personally, I don't see anything wrong with smoking a little pot from time to time responsibly and think it should be legalized, but I certainly don't want my 14 year old casually smoking. Any bio parents or step-parents out there, your advice is appreciated!