I have been with husband 2 years, He is a travelling construction worker, not been in his son's life alot. When he is home , he has very little rules, if any. Anything son wants he gets! BM is a drug addict and should never been allowed to have child in her care (CAS has been involved, but will not help anymore, as there is more serious cases) She is a master manipulator and will stop at nothing to get her way !

I had SS in my care for 8 months, while BF was out of province working. Up until i had him, he had missed 39 days of school (April 2011) and 52 lates !!! After in my care he did not miss any school, unless he had a night with his BM then he would not make it to school again. His father stepped in and we have him doing better. This child is spoiled rotten, does not have to do homework if he says he does not have any, he comes in from school, straight to his room and is on XBox, or laptop, playing games. That he does on weekend, but is on those games from time he wakes up til time he decides to go to sleep! I have taken them away when chores are not done! His father gives them back. One time child came back from weekend at BM, his father was here, i at work, the child did not ask his father where his games were, he started snooping going into my closet in our bedroom, helped himself to the confiscated game box and games. I was to say the least livid ! His father spoke to him, and there were no consequences yet again. Needless to say i have tossed my hands up and said your on you own now, i rarely deal with teen now.

This boy could and would not do anything for himself (his BM did and does everything ) I had to teach him so many things when it was just he and I here. Make sandwich, dishes, laundry, make a bed, empty a full garbage ect. If he has to get something to eat it is cereal, unless it is made for him by someone else. I have had to show him how to turn on oven and microwave, but he will not do for himself. I tell him he can do it, but selfesteem is non existant. Had him coming out of his shell, then his BF came home and it all went down the tubes. He was recently given a snowmobile, has not called the person to thank them, and all i heard from him was, "it's in kinda rough looking shape, even though it runs good, what can we do to the paint job so it looks nicer ?" I walked out and did not hear the father say anything.

Now the BM is trying to obtain disability (cause she drug addict) and has stated child will stay here and no more support will be needed from her (though she collected the whole time 8 months i had him ) The BF is back out of town working and i have been left with apparently no option and child is here, i am at my wits end and ready to just move out (i am 3/4 packed) but cannot abandon a child or a relationship!

I hope this was understandable, as i needed to rant, vent and really really would love some feedback. I also have asked that we attend councilling, original answer was yes, but has not followed through to appointments, i myself see it as a must and a life saver !

Thanks for listening !