OMG im trying not to vomit in my mouth... vom.... This is so unnatural - it would be even if the kids were younger but he wants to share a room with 19 and 17 year old girls rather than his wife..... this is wrong on so many levels - my hubby would not even do this with his ss11 and he has serious disney daddy traits. have you not addressed him about this previously as I can imagine this stems deeper than sitting beside them at dinner time.....

Your SDs appear to have "mini wife" syndrome and your DH is allowing it out of guilt.

It is totally inappropriate for your DH to share a room with his grown daughters and not his wife.

If it were me, I'd bail out of this vacation and take my boys somewhere else - just the three of us.

I agree with mannin....you are hardly going to pay towards this vacation???? Your kids are babies compared to his and I am sure you are willing to not have them in you and step dads room....

Ew my DH was just like this with SDipshit, he went on a cruise with her when she was a teenager and they shared a room. Theres some odd dynamic with a lot of divorced fathers and their daughters not all but a lot. When I first first used to be around SD my DH would fawn all over her, hang with her, stay with her, and when they would do that Id just go with my kids and leave it at that. If its a family vacation it should be the DH and you and then the kids. I wouldn't be surprised if it turned into a "daddy daddy fest". Im with mannin just take your kids and go alone and tell them to have fun wherever him and his sister wives go

im from ireland and going to canada for one of my best friends weddings in the fall. This was supposed to be a romantic holiday based on the fact we havent had one in almost 3 years. However, my fil is very elderly and used to live in canada so we thought it would be nice to bring him as well. that was absolutely fine by me even though we would be paying for it all. We were talking about going to NYC as Ive never been there and would absolutely love to go. In the interim I said we would go camping in France for a week which will be very financially tight for us. Dh said that wouldnt be right that ss had to come to canada with us too. I turned to dh and said this holiday was our first in 3 years!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! were bringing ss to France!!!! and if he wished he could bring fil and ss to nyc independently and pay and i would go to canada on my own or bring a friend. Sometimes you have got to put the foot down and this is one of those times OP!

yeah, Ewwww. If he wanted to share my bed again, he best be in it during a family vacation. If DH couldn't be bothered to stay in my room with me; I'd be vacationing else where & most likely apartment hunting.

The only other way to split into two rooms would be females in one and males in the other which is what we did on a trip to China and could only afford two rooms as opposed to a suite of rooms.

Definitely get a big 3br suite with a common area for you all to spend all day together, but three bedrooms so you all have appropriate sleeping space. It'll cost more but in the long run it will be money well spent!

This vacation doesn't sound like fun at all.

Okay, so they miss him. They will be going on vacation with him, they need to sleep in the same room with him, too? Ridiculous.

sick. :sick:

Why would a man want to share a room with his teenage daughters? Creepy! They are practically grown women! This reminds me of the other dude who took 72 wet tshirt pics of his daughters. Ugh.

Eeeew! By the time I was 13 I didn't want to share rooms with either one of my parents. I wouldn't even want to share rooms with my dad even at that age.

I knew a wife and husband made a couple and those people would rightly want to sit together. Every time I hear a story of some daughter or daughters trying to sit by their dad as if they are trying to squeeze the wife out of the picture is nothing but a plan to make you feel out in the cold.

I never did that to parents, nor would I do that to on purpose hanging out in a group of people who I had friends that had boyfriends.
I swear such Step daughters as these are UN-NATURAL and it is not because of the lack of quality time with a parent.

These two are old enough not to pull such crap.

It does not help having a husband agging it on. WTF

You are not wrong. This is the stupidiest thing I have ever heard. I know my DH would want to be in the same room/bed with me.

As a teenager/young adult I did not want to be that close to my dad. Ewwwww

very odd.
cant you rent a house? everyone has their own bedroom but plenty of common areas for quality parent-child time outside of the bedroom.