Hello, long time lurker, first time poster! This website has helped me so much, I really appreciate it. I'm sorry this post is so long... just skip to the last paragraph if you don't want to read everything!

My SD17 moved in with us awhile ago. Previously she had lived with her BM, but was having problems there, so she moved here. I've known her since she was small, my HD and I got together later on when she was around ten. (My HD and I were acquaintances before getting together.) Everything was fine (or so I thought) until a month ago. She was going on a trip to a major city, all the information was on a website, which she didn't read. I read it, and while we were talking about it, I was correcting her with the information she didn't read/ know/ was aware of at all. Boy, this was the wrong thing to do (according to her!) I don't want to give out too much information for my own privacy. And if SD or DH see this page.

She told my DH that I was a know it all, all I care about is money, I'm annoying and immature (since I corrected her.) She went on to say awful things about my family, more about me, my pets, and then attacked DH for the way we (me and DH) live, (there is nothing wrong with how we live- we are both successful in our fields of work and are responsible adults) and that she wants she pretty much wants me out of the picture completely and I think she wants me and DH divorced. I found out about this two days later (from a mutual friend we had on facebook.)

DH said that SD had said stuff about me (he doesn't know everything that I know) and it was being taken care of. I was livid. We confronted her and she would absolutely not apologize to me for anything she said. She claims she doesn't know why she said it. She ended up moving out (if she didn't, I would have) and we haven't spoken since. My husband agrees with me that I will not be bullied by her and disrespected in my own home.

I'm really having a problem getting past the anger towards her. I just can not get past it. I am extremely hurt, she went from occassionally calling me Mom (which I did NOT ask her to do) to this. I can't even think of the situation without getting an anxiety attack. DH talked to her a few days ago, and SD said she is not ready to talk to me until she can figure out why she said those things.

Is it wrong I don't want to talk about this with her? She has been spoiled all her life by both of her parents, and feels very entitled to everything. I know when she does talk to her, she will just be telling me what she thinks I want to hear. I've been reading the article on her about disengagement (THANK YOU to everyone that has pasted links to it on here!!) and I am going to do that. But do you guys think it's wrong to just want to not go thru the upsetment of having that conversation, and just being acquaintances with her?