Can't Forgive SD
My 18yo SD was over heard telling people she hated my parents. When I tell you they are the most loving people EVER, they are. Right from the beginning they treated them like they were my children. At Christmas all the kids got the same amount. My mom would pick up gifts for them on Halloween, Valentine's Day etc. When I confronted her she said it's not my mom, but my Dad. She said the reason she hates him is the way he treats my 8 BS. She said he lets him get away with everything and never yells at him for anything. Funny part is that her 3 year old step brother is much worse then my 8 year old, but I guess the way my Dad treats him is okay. I told her that I wouldn't change their relationship for a million dollars. They are two peas in a pod, doing everything together. They go fishing, out to lunch, on bike rides, to sports games etc.. I have never see a grandfather and grandson so close. here is my problem... I can't get over the fact that she said she hated my DAD...help... what the hell do I do. It's been 3 months and it still hurts the same as when I found out.
Ignore her and if she feels
Ignore her and if she feels that way, you need to tell your parents to stop doing anything for her. She sounds ungrateful and jealous and the best way to treat this is to give nothing.
Plenty of SMs dislike/hate
Plenty of SMs dislike/hate in-laws for the way they treat their SKs. The in-laws view it as having a great bound with the kid, while the SM views it as indulging/allowing the kid to get away with murder. Perhaps your SD is having the same feelings about your dad and son that many SMs have about their SKs and in-laws.
When my Skid has given my mom
When my Skid has given my mom and dad rations of shit I jerked a knot in his tail the likes of which he had never seen. I have zero tolerance for disrespect towards myself or my bride but to disrespect my parents is nearly a death penalty offense. I should not have worried though, dad came down on the Skid like a ton of shit in a 1gal Ziploc when the Skid played the toxic crap with my parents.
When the Skid came home from visiting my parents after his toxic crap his mom and I shredded his ass like he had never experienced.
Even with the extremely unpleasant consequences my parents delivered and then his mom and I accentuated with even more consequences my mom and dad are his absolute favorite GPs. He visits them regularly and they visit him regularly too.
I would make this toxic kid sit down with your dad and mom and tell them exactly what you overheard her saying about your parents. The abject horror of having to bare her own ass to your parents is the perfect consequence for her behavior. Your parents have been around the block raising their own kids and will probably know exactly what cards to play in bringing full ass barring consequences down on your toxic Skid.
IMHO of course.
Thanks everyone. I just
Thanks everyone. I just really cant even look at her. Her and her 20year old brother live with us full time. He has not had a job in 9 months and just sits in his room and plays video games every day .... for 9 months. DH doesn't want to be hard on him cause SS gave him a HUGE guilt trip about how DH does not spend time with the older ones and just does stuff with the little ones. If SS and SD would like to go to Sesame Place and Chuck E Cheese then come along I say. But Im the Ahole for saying he should get a job.. I think the exact words were, "you have nothing positive to say to them"... no shit... they don't do anything POSITIVE,